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New nanny & extended family wanting to call in

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Addictedtocustardcreams · 13/10/2015 13:07

I have a nanny starting in two weeks. I have never employed one before. My extended family have started telling me how great this is as they can drop in & see the kids whenever they like as the nanny will be home with them. Is this usually considered ok? I would have thought it might be a bit stressful for the nanny.

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Stillunexpected · 13/10/2015 14:08

Is this just idle chat or are your family likely to be calling in unannounced all the time? If they are going to call around once or twice before losing interest, I wouldn't worry too much but if they are going to be constantly ringing the doorbell I would stress that they need to phone beforehand and if nanny says it's not suitable then they don't come! I can foresee poor nanny trying to get out for an outing/put baby down for a nap/get lunch ready while grandma is hovering in the background. Alternatively, she ends up spending nap time, when she might try to have a break or do some child-related laundry, actually making tea and chatting to random family.

wizzywig · 13/10/2015 13:33

I think it'd put yr nanny in a difficult situation of having to adjust/ cancel plans that she may have made for yr kids if family turn up. Also it may be hard for her to discipline yr kids if family are around

jclm · 13/10/2015 13:29

Usually nannies would dislike this because this would disrupt their routine with the children. It might work if grandma can come at a specified time to lool after the children and then the nanny could have 30 mins break and rest in another room. It would not work if grandma is hanging round whilst the nanny is trying to do lunch/tidy up/get ready to go out. X

AbeSaidYes · 13/10/2015 13:10

I think I would stress the need to plan visits rather than just drop in as Nanny may have plans with the kids which could be disrupted.
maybe talk to the Nanny about what would suit her?

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