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Should I spy on our au pair - I need to check their behaviour

33 replies

morval99 · 28/04/2015 11:44

My children have started to say a few strange things about the au pair. I don't know whether to believe them or not, and don't want to start rocking the boat / challenging the au pair. I read in the paper earlier this year that you can now legally spy on the elderly in residential homes. Is there something you can use at home legally, to check on your au pair? Any ideas ? Anyone know?

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ImperialBlether · 28/04/2015 12:23

Could you leave your phone on record in an unobtrusive place?

Jackie0 · 28/04/2015 12:00

Are you considering CCTV ?
I couldn't do that to her. I think its a bit unfair and intrusive.
I leave the door open so I can hear the kids when I'm on the loo, that would be a nice thing on CCTV Sad
You do need to address your concerns however.
You need to talk to her.

Seriouslyffs · 28/04/2015 11:59

How old are the children and what are they saying?

Justusemyname · 28/04/2015 11:55

If you want to spy on them you already don't trust her so she should go. Evidence means nothing, and is. I consolation, if it shows her doing irreparable damage to your child. You'd be wishing you'd just got rid.

ImperialBlether · 28/04/2015 11:53

I wouldn't want to leave the children with someone if they are saying worrying things about her.

What have they said?

WhiffleSqueak · 28/04/2015 11:49

my mum once came home unexpectedly early from work as she was pregnant with me and suffering with morning sickness.

my brother was 4 at the time in his cot. she was just in time to catch the au pair shouting at him to shut up as she turned the volume up on the telly.

she was replaced by another au pair who was so lovely and such a good family friend that they named their children after each other.

I say do what you gotta do to be confident that she's doing a good job!

gamerchick · 28/04/2015 11:46

I think if I got to the point of wanting
To spy the relationship is over in any setting Confused

Do you want evidence to prosecute?

ShatnersBassoon · 28/04/2015 11:46

Initially it would be easier to ask a few questions than to start covert operations.