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Things that annoy you about your aupair...

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ChocolateBiscuitCake · 04/04/2015 14:39

Have just given the au pair the heave-ho and a huge weight has lifted. However, I am now enduring the two week notice period with a stroppy teenager.

Thought I would start a lighthearted thread on the annoying things that they do mine does:

Empty the dishwasher but after 6 months still not know where everything goes, so leave it on the side.

Filling the dishwasher with cleaned things left on the side of the sink to dry.

Hoover around things on the floor (rather than put them away). Definitely no hoovering behind doors!

Always let the dog lie in the only ground floor room with carpet, mostly when wet (when specifically told, no dog in this room).

Feed the fat dog treats (we don't have any, she has bought her own!).

The list goes on.

Any one else able to add their experiences?

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sosix · 04/04/2015 19:41

Were us your easter spirt? What would baby Jesus say? Easter Biscuit

Nolim · 04/04/2015 19:39

Bigfam if i may:
Why are you making such a big deal of 'needing an extra pair of hands' when you're 8 months pregnant. When you have children, you're supposed to do these things with them, or am I missing the point?
May i ask according to who you are not supposed to get help? I dont see anything wrong with hiring help.
i dont know if you feel superior or just fail to empatize.

You mention that other posters are looking down their noses. That is what you are doing.

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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 04/04/2015 19:37

Ahem

Twoplus3 · 04/04/2015 19:35

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bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:33

Oh sorry, I didn't read the part that said 'au pair employers comments only'

bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:30

Not once did I say I had a low opinion of people who do, or that I think I'm great.

JulyKit · 04/04/2015 19:25

In it's own very tragic way, it's a Mumsnet classic, fourteen.

No, wait, it's a Mumsnet cliche.

Sad Biscuit ew, soggy biscuit

bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:25

I wished the op well then karoleann started with her "I'd rather pay someone else to...." and looking down her nose. It was friendly (on my part) til then

Nolim · 04/04/2015 19:25

Leah and bigfam: we get it, you do not use paid help and have a very low opinion of those who do. Fair enough, that is your opinion.

So why are you commenting on a thread about paid childcare? Do you have something to contribute based on experience or just want to rant about other people's choices and tell everybody how great you are?

fourteen · 04/04/2015 19:20

What a fucking car crash this thread is.

Some people need to go and eat some more chocolate or something. Fucking bitches.

bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:18

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JulyKit · 04/04/2015 19:12

It's very poor form to laugh at your own jokes, bigfam.

Have a Biscuit

bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:09

You have no right to say it was poor planning either, having no idea of the situation I was in. Oh, and my 'foetus' is a perfectly healthy baby girl, who will be taught manners (of which you have none, you must have terrible headaches from looking down your nose at people all the time) Grin

bigfam · 04/04/2015 19:05

Urgh I was trying to lighten the mood.
You're just a complete snob, would you pay someone to push for you aswell?!

Karoleann · 04/04/2015 18:56

Bigfam - this board is paid home childcare. Which you don't use. Hence the analogy with the chickens (which you don't have either).

Incidentally, moving at 9 months pregnant and then decorating is just poor planning rather than being something to boast about. I also wouldn't want to expose a foetus to paint fumes - I would much rather pay someone else to take that risk.

JulyKit · 04/04/2015 18:54

This thread is a lazy journalist's dream.

It's got it's own prickly little barbs on use of 'your' and 'you're' and everything.

Just needs someone to jump in with Did you mean to be so rude?

or Are you new here?

Biscuit Biscuit all round.

LeahLeah · 04/04/2015 18:40

It's not a competition, but it's pretty simple. Can't handle 3 kids so hire another one to take over your responsibilities and moan when she can't do it properly?
Nice work.

mmgirish · 04/04/2015 17:16

On her moped not in it!

sosix · 04/04/2015 17:15

I bow down to the perfec mums on here. Odfodears.

mmgirish · 04/04/2015 17:15

People are being a bit hard on the OP here. It was supposed to be lighthearted, I can't understand why some people can't see it that way.

Things that annoy me about my nanny - she wants to put the baby in the baby bjorn and take him in her moped...

bigfam · 04/04/2015 17:08

I'm not opposed to owning chickens. Wink
Anyway op, despite all this I do hope everything is ok when your baby does arrive, and that he/she is healthy and happy, that's the most important thing.

PrintScreen · 04/04/2015 16:58

Why the hell don't you have chickens Bigfam? My children love our chickens and learn so much from caring for them. I think people with kids and no children are bloody selfish because my own approach to life as a chicken and child owner is clearly the only way to do it. Oh wait.... I've just rembered that my way isn't the only way.

FFS, if a person wants help with child rearing then they should be able to seek that help whether they have one children or ten, whether they are pregnant or fit as a fiddle, whether they work or not. Do you judge those whose parents help out? Those who rely on friends for a bit of respite? Those whose partners help more than most? Those who use nurseries? There are a thousand ways to make family life work and they can all be equally good as long as they are approached with kindness and good intentions.

bigfam · 04/04/2015 16:52

Oh thanks Nolim, I pride myself on using the correct context!! lol

bigfam · 04/04/2015 16:49

Karoleann, that would just be silly, I don't have chickens.
I do have children and an au pair relates to childre.

Nolim · 04/04/2015 16:48

Bigfam my last comment was for leah:
I think your lazy

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