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CM CLUB:mindee's & personal cleanliness?..my predicament!

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StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW · 09/10/2006 10:35

not going into detail personally!

what would you do if a mindee comes sometimes ok, sometimes very grubby(clothes) and in all the time theyve come never had clean finger nails>..thick black dirt under them and constantly hands in mouth?

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StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW · 10/10/2006 13:41

nails not nales????!!!

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StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW · 10/10/2006 13:41

scrubbed nales yesterday, got blunt scissors and dug out the stubborn muck and cut finger nales really short!..told mum id done it cos she was scratching herself

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StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW · 09/10/2006 19:36

top was very dirty today muck all up sleeves (chocolate/mud?) and nales were same as yesterday but a little worse?..thing is we dont go anywhere to get that mucky, so shes been like this all over weekend? and she was at mine at 8.30 so its not like she could ahve 'got' dirty many places?

they are really both lovely, just i think this is something i would be/i am strong on, esp if they have their hands in mouth all the time

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Glassofslime · 09/10/2006 19:19

my DS aged 3 1/2 has black dirt under his nails within a couple of hours of waking up each day. Obviously I do my best, but I bet there have been the odd times when he's gone to nursery like that - I'd hate to think people would assume he was uncared for. He's just a normal active little boy. However I'd never let him leave the house in grubby clothes.

Katymac · 09/10/2006 19:18

I think this is about having different standards

I find this very difficult as I don't want dirty people/children in my house - I do however accept that this is unreasonable of me

Clean them while you have them might be the way I go

Get them fingerpainting then use a scrubbing brush - once they are clean, a have a go every few days

Clothes are more of a problem - a couple of times I have fibbed and said we are going to a party can you put something clean in to get changed into......then I have not needed to suggest it again

I don't demand high fashion or expensive brands & I don't mind stains/marks but I don't like muck!!

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StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW · 09/10/2006 19:14

i wouldnt have thought it neglect as mum is lovely woman but personal hygene IS an issue, for both?!
but maybe im too 'clean'??, i pick up smells and notice dirt like a magnet!

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LoveMyGirls · 09/10/2006 15:47

i bathed my mindee when he was ill as he was sick all over himself.

CwmbranChildminder · 09/10/2006 15:45

Mayb ring someone from NCMA just to ask advice without giving personal details!
Are we allowed to bath the children?

dmo · 09/10/2006 13:59

i did have a child like this and my fav activity would be to put him in the bath in the morning for a play and wash him (tell parents he had been painting and got messy) i would then wash his clothes and he used my spare clothes for the day then b4 mum came i would put his own clothes back on

maybe i'm fussy but when your out people think they are your children and i would feel when they were mucky (and i dont mean play mucky that is healthly)

RTKangaMummy · 09/10/2006 13:04

Maybe take photos of the hands so if you need evidence to show what you are talking about.

How old is the mindee?

One of the boys in DS class in infants used to get dressed himself and would nearly always be in dirty shirts and trousers - he left before junior school so don't know him anymore.

LoveMyGirls · 09/10/2006 12:23

Agree with the nailbrush, infact agree with everything amphion says.

amphion · 09/10/2006 11:04

In case it turns out to be a case of neglect, I would note down dates and circumstances, whether it was mentioned to parents etc. in a private notebook, just in case. You will need this if ever you feel you need to contact social services 'cos they need facts rather than just your feelings about a matter. If it's just a case of different hygiene standards at home I would keep a nailbrush at the sink and show all the children how to use it. Don't know about the clothes though - how bad is it?