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nanny is pregnant :(

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mum10923 · 18/11/2014 16:05

Our nanny announced yesterday that she is pregnant! She's only 22 and I never expected this to happen! I'm gutted but guess there's not much I can do. She's only been with her boyfriend for a short time so really unexpected. She says she is 12 weeks and suffering with sickness so she might need time off, but I can't take any time off as my job is very demanding and stressful, so I've told her she'll still need to come in but just take it easy.. It's just really thrown a spanner in the works as we rely on her a lot!

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Bowlersarm · 18/11/2014 19:59

Blimey harsh responses. I think it's hard for you OP.

PotteringAlong · 18/11/2014 19:54

You told her she has to work even if she's ill?! Surely dodgy ground legally?

HowsTheSerenity · 18/11/2014 19:54

So if you were pregnant would your boss demand that you come into work even if you felt unwell?

I understand it's stressful for you as an employer but that's partnof being one. Tell her congratulations and get your contingency plan ready for when she leaves.

Unexpected · 18/11/2014 19:49

You can't demand that she come in regardless of how she is feeling. If she was not pregnant, what would you do if she had D&V or shingles or broke her leg? You would have to have some emergency cover in place for that anyway. I know (as an ex-nanny employer) that it's horribly stressful if you think your nanny is going to be off with illness, bereavement etc but she's a human being too you know. How would you feel if your employer had demanded that you be in work regardless of how you were feeling when pregnant/ill?

Adayinthelife · 18/11/2014 17:48

Planned or unplanned, she has every right to be pregnant. She also has every right to have time off if she is unwell due to her pregnancy. I appreciate it may make things very, very difficult for you - but there's nothing you can do!

chasingtherainbow · 18/11/2014 17:46

I actually don't even know what to say to this! Other than yab very unreasonable.

luckynumbereleven · 18/11/2014 16:39

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Blondeshavemorefun · 18/11/2014 16:34

If she needs to take time off then she has too and you will have to find cover

Yes it's annoying when nannies get preg Hmm but she has every right to get pregnant planned or not

Maybe she hasn't been with her bf for long but accidents happens. Let's hope they stay together

Let's hope your employer didn't think the same about you when you were preg

I hope you said congrats and that you will support her even if doesn't come back with baby