Would anyone care to share their house rules for nannies/au pairs with me?

i am a nanny, and my rules are pretty simple. No smoking, and no matter what i do the night before i still get the kids up, and if i'm sick (self inflicted) i just have to get on with it. I am not a child, and i would not apprehciate rules of who and when people can stay, its my house too, and so long as it doesnt interfer with my job, i'm free to do what i want. Things like locking the house and closing windows (i would think) are just common sense and if you need it in wrtitng for your nanny, do you really want them looking after your child?

Re friends, we have a rule that says "you may, and we would encourage you to, have friends round who are parents of the children's friends or who are also working as nannies and bring their charges with them".

We also say that our nanny is responsible for the behaviour of anyone she asks to the house - which probably works as a bit of a practical filter.

Generally we find that our nannies would not dream of bringing anyone else into the house without at least clearing it with us first and often without having introduced them to us.

Are you having nanny-friend problems?

Feeling very incompetent now my rules tend to be more of the try not to burn the house down and try to keep the boys from killing themselves/each other!
(i did have no smoking/ no overnight visitors with out prior arrangement and i set up a web cam and skype to stop use of the phone)

Hi ,

Some of the things I have mentioned:
The house
When leaving the house put the alarm on and close all windows
Do not allow anyone you don't know into the house when alone. Use intercom
Use of telephone ? can use for all local calls, I will provide phonecard for overseas calls.
Staying overnight at friends ? to let us know.
May want to include rules on friends/boyfriend?s visiting and staying over.
No smoking in the house including your friends.
If we run out of the milk, or other essential items ? to let me know so I can replace them.
Tidy up after themselves at weekends.
Take care with appliances

Children
Also included what I allow the children to eat/ snacks ect.
Limits on T.V
Safety when walking to school
How we discipline the children ? time out ect
We expect the children to be polite ? manners ect ( as customs vary)

I have also included local information, and all my personal contact details including schools , my mother doctors, all emergency numbers .

Hope this helps