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I know this might be odd.... but.

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Justabtfunctioning · 21/09/2014 21:59

I have recently found a nanny I'm keen to higher and am in the prices of doing my due diligence. As I'm totally new to all of this and therefore super nervous about it all I wondered if I'm allowed to ask her for:

  1. A CRB/DBS check on her partner? Although he's not going to be employed by us I do wonder if I need to be extra safe as he might be around to pick her up etc therefore have access to my children, possibly without me having ever met him?
  1. Can I ask (with her permission of course) to speak with her GP to see if there are any medical issues I need to be aware of? I know I'll need her permission but is this a tad ott?

I don't want to freak her out and put her off from accepting, but I feel I do need to be extra thorough as she'll have sole access over my kids in private behind closed doors. I also know that if I'm this para then maybe I should consider other options but having spent weeks researching and thinking about it 24/7 this is really our best option. She seems perfect, and my instincts are positive but I feel I need to be sure and thorough.

Any other things I need to be aware of/do?

Thanks for your help!

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NannyR · 21/09/2014 22:07

Right.....

Point one - I don't think you can legally get a crb check on someone you are not employing. It is a bit paranoid, what about when your children start going to other peoples houses for tea/playdates - will you want to crb check the parents?

Point two - I would not agree to this at all (and I don't think the gp would divulge medical records to a third party anyway). It's a real invasion of privacy, would you be happy to give your employer access to your personal medical records?

HowsTheSerenity · 21/09/2014 22:05

No and No
How would you feel if you were asked to do this?
Maybe she should ask you for references. You and your ?DP may be axe murdering cult members.

PepsiTwirl · 21/09/2014 22:04

Wow!!!!!

If I was gonna be your nanny and you asked my partner to do a CRB check and asked for my medical records, i probably wouldn't take the position to be honest, not that I'm hiding anything. Just that I feel this is to much.

A nanny will normally have mummy/ nanny friends and kids over, these are not going to all be CRB checked...
Totally understand the 'safe' aspect but not only men harm children

Sunna · 21/09/2014 22:01
  1. No.
  2. No.
wickedwitchofwaterloo · 21/09/2014 22:00

In a word. No.

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