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what have i done???????????

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:24

i had a thread last week about a single dad with 2 girls aged 5 mths and nearly 3
i had concerns but not about negelt but about how he was coping
anyway i finally phoned the health visitor
anyway on friday he tell me they are on the social sevices at risk reg
i've not seen him since no phone call etc

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dmo · 01/10/2006 00:26

thank you sooooooo much
i cant believe the kindness in all you people
thank you for the offer of knits but i now have a bag of clothes each for the girls
thank you once again for your kindness

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EllieHsMum · 30/09/2006 20:04

Dear dmo

I cam across your thread by chance. I have a baby daughter who is 18 weeks old. We where very fortunate before she was born we received lots of lovely hand knitted cardigans. If it would be of any help for the wee baby of 5 months I could post them to you before the weather changes? My email is [email protected]. I would be only to happy to help.x.

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dmo · 26/09/2006 09:52

just got worst on my way to charty shop when it opens at 10
3 yr lod turned up in a dress in which you could see her knickers (very short) when dad left took it off her and its a 3-6 mth ols dress

had some spare pants and top so put those on her but will have to see what they have at shop this morning

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dmo · 19/09/2006 21:45

lol

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StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 15:01

ooh..just rememberd got a lovely thick duffle coat for older one..postage may be pricy (wont overcharge like i do on ebay, but they will prob be heavy, will sort out for friday and post then let you know..will email you this anyway..will keep it as cheap as poss..like carrier pidgeon or something

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dmo · 19/09/2006 13:27

cheers guys i'm in Preston
good one soulgirl this is what ofsted have informed me to do, your wording sounds fine i will put that in from now on

thanks so much for your offers cant believe how kind you all are
i am willing to pay postage if you are willing to post my e-mail is:
[email protected]

once again thank you think i just had a panic this morning

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SOULGIRL · 19/09/2006 11:41

I dont know if this is any help but if you are not allowed to specifically ask about social services etc. on the form you fill in at the playgroup my son goes to they have a question along the lines of "are there any other family circumstances affecting your child that we should know about" if you say that this is to help you tailor your service to the childs best advantage then I dont think most people would take offence!

May not have the wording exactly right as it was a while ago!

staceym11 · 19/09/2006 11:33

again, loads of baby girls clothes, 0-12 months if you're interested? how a monther could leave her baby i dont know, i cant imagine my dh looking after dd on his own, he'd be in a worse state than this poor man!

Uwila · 19/09/2006 11:30

DMO, where are you? I could probably arrange some donations as well. I haven't got tons of stuff, as I have already given much of it away. But, I am soon headed to Chicago and am bringing lots of 12 month clothes to my sister. However, they won't all fit in the suitcase, so I could donate what I can't take anyway.

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 19/09/2006 11:28

dmo - ive got a lot of baby clothes im trying to get rid of - birth - 12 months if it will help for the younger one. Been following your threads and realyl feel for this guy.

i also have some lovely winter coats for the younger one if needed.

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dmo · 19/09/2006 11:25

i got a sterlizer the othe day from motercare with 3 bottles in so i use those when baby is here and sterlize the bottle he gives me in the mornings
strawberry has gen offered some clothes which i will use for them here
dont want extra money from him just want to help him think he needs all the money he gets

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Uwila · 19/09/2006 11:09

oh good.:-)

Think maybe dad should hire a cleaner who will also do the laundry. Maybe you could recommend one for him? And maybe you could offer him a few more services you don't normally provide (for a fee), like to organise the milk, keep the bottle, sterilise them, maybe have an extra couple of sets of clothes for his kids that youkeep washed and available at your house. It might make his life a lot easier, and you might make a bit of extra money.

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:57

[email protected]
i dont need photos i'm sure they are lovely
if you e-mail me i will send you my adress thank you so much your very kind

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StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 10:55

ok, whats you email and ill send photos over tonight..got shorts, skirt, jeans, trousers and t-shirts

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:54

thanks very much strawberry thats very kind
it would be useful as i'm potty training her and i only have boys

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StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 10:50

dya have plenty of spare clothes for the elder mindee??..just looking through dd's older stuff, could sort through before i put on ebay..mostly 2-3 or 3 years(generous sizing)
you can have them for postage..let me know if you want to see first and ill email you.

StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 10:47

..bit sour sometimes though!esp when my dd been up since..oh..about 4.30 this morn!

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:46

thanks strawberry your so sweet
and thanks eveybody

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StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 10:45

could he drop them round this afty to you so he could get himself together/have a few hours on own with him obv not being at work???hed prob appreciate it.

StrawberryMoon · 19/09/2006 10:44

pheeeeeewww..was glued here!, really felt for you (and the dad/children)
so glad it ok.
do not blame yourself, he is the one using appropriate childcare ie you and doing his best for children, id prob ring HV and ask what will be done but from what i remember she just said she would have a word on her 6 month check on baby didnt she?
maybe you could ask about the mopther and if theres anything you need to know(ask the dad that too).
sooo glad all is well...can race round for dd finishing nursery now!

alexsmum · 19/09/2006 10:44

good news. i didn't think it was because of your call.
sounds like you are an incredibly caring loving childminder btw.

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:42

going to phone ofsted to ask if you can ask parents bout social services etc
will keep you posted

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dmo · 19/09/2006 10:41

just phoned dad
everything ok (thank god)
i really paniced
5mth old been up all night so dad slept in he didnt hear the phone and his mobile was downstairs
says he is sorry for not phoning sooner (should have arrived at 7.30am)
i dont care as long as they are ok
thanks all for your concern hopefully they will be with me tomorrow

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alexsmum · 19/09/2006 10:39

are they meant to be with you tomorrow?

MaryP0p1 · 19/09/2006 10:39

I agree intrusive but relevant though no?

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