Nannies - ever feel like just the nanny?

I am the nanny.

I am paid to do what you say - tidy up, care for the child etc.

I don't expect to be part of the family or attend family day trips/events.

In my current job - I like that my bosses ask about my weekend. But I don't expect it, it just sometimes comes up in conversation.

I have done before, less the cba to do things with their child but more being "just the nanny". It's weird. I was live-in and it was like "oh, 7pm, time for you to go upstairs and disappear until 8am." It was never out rightly said but it was just awkward if I was downstairs, even if I was just making myself some food or a tea. And at weekends I'd wait until they went out to come down, grab as much food as I could and go back up if I was home, if they didn't go out I'd wait as long as possible before coming down to make myself food just to avoid it as I felt very much like I was intruding on family time and that they didn't want me there during that time. Again, never was said but I just got a vibe like I was interrupting something, iyswim? Most weekends I stayed with my best friend and we went camping or visiting nearby cities, I think it was all that time together that ended up with us getting together properly

I've had the opposite too, being too involved/close to a family. Both me and a family I worked for were having big financial difficulties, they were cutting my hours constantly and chopping/changing them because they were trying to cut costs but not get rid of me completely and I was trying to stay because I didn't want to let them down. They made me redundant eventually but I was going to hand in my notice when I next saw them (we had a few weeks break) because I couldn't do all the extra temping and bits on top of it and my other job any more, it was a horrible time and we were all very stressed. Thankfully it ended on a nice note once it was all out in the open and we're still in touch and I'm doing some ad hoc days this summer for them too :)