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tv with childminder

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corkgirlindublin · 26/06/2014 18:25

I have to speak to my childminder about not allowing my 3 year old to watch 6 hours of tv a day. Please reassure me I'm not being precious. Any hints on how to approach it. I'm really pissed off / anxious about it and I'm afraid I'll come across passive aggressive Sad Sad

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EmilyElephantTrumpets · 26/06/2014 20:11

Ok so that makes it easier to approach.

Slightly miffed at you using the term childminder when she isn't one as this tars CMs with the brush that actually a nanny is unprofessional enough to do.

If she is your nanny then you are her employer and you need to have a professional meeting to explain that this is not acceptable.

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corkgirlindublin · 26/06/2014 20:06

Emily, she will openly tell me my daughter watched 4 DVDs in a day and see nothing wrong with it. Strictly speaking I suppose shes a nanny share since she minds my kids in my home with one other child who is a relative of hers. I kinda turned a blind eye at the start as tv helped in the adjustment period but we're several months in and its still going on. I don't allow much tv myself and as a consequence of how much shes watching when I'm in work I dont turn on the tv full stop when I'm home. Playschool has ended for the summer and my stomach feels sick with anxiety that my dd will spend the whole summer being sedated by the tv

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 26/06/2014 19:22

Did she cover tv use when you initially met her?

busyDays · 26/06/2014 19:21

I would say that TV watching is one of those fundamental things that will be hard to change. If she is used to having it on for 6 hours a day and the other children there are used to watching a lot of TV (possibly including her own children?) she is unlikely to suddenly agree to a drastic change. The problem is she can't stop one child from watching without stopping them all. Some childminder have the TV on a lot, some a little and some not at all. Some people seem to insist on having it as on as constant 'background noise'. Personally I don't like having it on but I have many friends who just can't seem to manage without it. By all means talk to her but I think you may need to move your child elsewhere.

superram · 26/06/2014 19:02

I would move him-I have been a cm and would only allow 10 mins possibly before pick up-and very rarely. Sometimes a film at the end of term for schoolies.

EmilyElephantTrumpets · 26/06/2014 18:54

Erm how do you know?