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Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:33

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

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FeelingOld · 02/09/2006 22:54

I agree with dmo, ask her if she knows another cm. I meet up regularly with other cm in my area and our mindees know all of us/each other very well and have covered for each other on the odd occasion eg funerals, illness.

phatcat · 02/09/2006 22:53

I do sympathise but think that her app should take priority. Is switching to a nursery an option in the long run if things are so marginal with your jobs?

Katymac · 02/09/2006 22:53

If I found a lump - I honestly don't think I could wrok until I had some info - I'm sorry Angela - but I'm surprised she is working the rest of the weeknever mind Monday or Tuesday

Some people can deal with stuff like this and carry on (my mum is like that)

I would completely go to pieces and be a gibbering wreak - completely unable to look after my own children never mind anyone elses

Jasnem · 02/09/2006 22:53

If the choice is you lose your job, dp takes an unpaid day, or ask her to change appt, I'd manage with dp taking an unpaid day.(And seriously look for some kind of "back up" child care for future use)

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:52

What I meant was that the GP has given the lump a check over already and in her words didn't exactly seem in a hurry to pull out all the stop to get her an urgent appointment (although maybe 6 weeks is an urgent appointment ???).
Of course we would want the first appointment and we want her to have the first appointment but it does cause a major problem, as I said just thinking out loud.

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noddyholder · 02/09/2006 22:52

Bloody hell are you joking Breast cancer or a days lost pay?How can you even ask?

FeelingOld · 02/09/2006 22:51

I am a childminder and I state in my portfolio that 'wherever possible I will give 4 weeks notice for days needed off except in an emergency concerning myself or my family or for a bereavement in my close family'.
I would consider this an emergency, you can never be seen too soon in these circumstances. Surely you must have realised that situations like this can/may arise when you use a childminder instead of a nursery. What would you do if your child was ill on tuesday, would you just go to work regardless or would you take the day off?
I don't mean to sound harsh but surely you would not ask her to change her app however hard it is for you.

dmo · 02/09/2006 22:50

your poor c/m
this is the thing about working for yourself by yourself when a medical emergancy comes up you have to close shop
would you she rather have it checked out now early on or be dead in 6 mths?
if you ask her she may know another c/m who would have your child for the day i know i do (a friend c/m had my 2 mindees while i went to a funural)

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:48

We're completely dependant on her, I may even loose my job if I have another day off, leaving us both out of a job. She has been to the GP and she would be waiting 6 weeks for an appointment if she wasn't going private so another day is better than 6 weeks.

I thought I'd run it by you see what people thought first though.

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shimmy21 · 02/09/2006 22:42

are you mad?

mancmum · 02/09/2006 22:40

.. on the Tuesday... sorry meant to add that!

mancmum · 02/09/2006 22:39

yes it would be she must be out of her mind with worry put yourself in her shoes... would you and DH not book in for the first day you could, no matter what impact at work if you had something like this?

This is the horrible rub of being dependant on a single point for child care.. is there no way you can put kids with some one else -- surely it is not all day appointment? No way she can have an appt at a time to minimise impact to you?