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Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:33

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

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Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:04

Oh Ok.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:01

Flossam - of course, but i can't control cancer I can control whether she has a job or not, so that's what i'm trying to do.

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Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:00

Better her with a benign lump and no job than with a malignant lump and no job.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:00

Twigglet - I'm not a troll - do a search

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Twiglett · 03/09/2006 16:59

TROLL

stop feeding it

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:58

WWB - the same day is available every week, it's not like she doesn't know that, but of course it won't have been on her mind at the time.
As I have said a thousand times now, I won't mention it to her but the result maybe that the lump beningn and we're both unemployed

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WigWamBam · 03/09/2006 16:57

No need for that at all, thechildsslave.

Angela, medically one day might not make much difference to her condition, but emotionally it could. Every single day that you wait with a worry like hers is dreadful. It really does feel as if you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, and you can't see any further than when you'll get to see the consultant.

Did you truly expect her to consult your dh's diary before she made the appointment? From experience, when you are making appointments for these things, the last thing on your mind is whether it's convenient for anyone else.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:55

What are you missing Clayhead ?

Who says I'm not calling people, I have left two messages but really that is not going to happen due to other people working, being heavily pregnant etc

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misdee · 03/09/2006 16:54

no angela in RL, if someone is ill and needs medical attentio nthen every single bloody day counts in getting treatment.

if i had left it a day later for my dh to be seen he may be dead now, if i had got him seen a day or so earlier he may not be where he is now, and may not have needed to be on the transplant list.

every day counts.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:54

What does your DH's cancer have to do with this thread, because your DH is ill that's an excuse to behave badly is it. I'm sorry to hear your DH is dying that is awful, my CM is not as far as we know so can we not write her off just yet ?

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Clayhead · 03/09/2006 16:53

None of this adds up or makes any sense!

Is it just me missing something?

misdee · 03/09/2006 16:52

why arent you calling your friends now?

so glad i'm not a childminder.

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 16:52

quite agree. never seen such a busy thread.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:51

Greensleeves - my finances are not up for public scrunity but ALL of my wages go to the CM, every penny.
We cannot afford DH to have a day off, end of.
So as I have been saying for hours and am being sworen at for, I have two choices.
She moves the appointment for the day she knows we can accommodate or I probably have to resign before I'm sacked and then we'll both be out of a job.
Incidentially, i fully intend to pay her for the day off and any other days she needs to take but she has to give and take too, that's the way it works in life.

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thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:49

If you have a DH with incurable cancer and a small child I feel I can tell her to F off and sort out her life and to think of other people not just herself .

Greensleeves · 03/09/2006 16:46

That was unnecessarily nasty thechildsslave.

Angela..... I really would have liked to help because it sounds like such a nightmare, but I still don't really understand I'm afraid. If he earns £750 a day it doesn't seem possible that you could be living hand to mouth to the degree that a day's absence would be a disaster. And if you're working full time, what sort of job pays so badly that it would take 5 months to earn £750? I'm really baffled

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 16:46

sometimes though, these things just need to be said!

thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:46

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misdee · 03/09/2006 16:45

pluto

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thechildsslave · 03/09/2006 16:44

Not mars thats for sure .

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noddyholder · 03/09/2006 16:43

She really should have considered your husbands calendar before booking the appointment!Get a life!

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 16:42

£750 a day is a huge amount to us which is why we can't loose it.
As I have said it would take me months to earn that to get our budget straight if he had to loose a day.

Look, I'm resigning if my work are difficult about, we'll both be unemployed but she'll not have to change the apppointment. That's it nothing more to say.

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