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Non medical but worrying day off that I can't cover wwyd ?

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AngelaChill · 02/09/2006 22:33

My CM has found a lump in her breast which obviously she's worried sick about and has booked herself an appointment at a private hospital for Tuesday, she's told me this, not asked if it's ok iyswim. Now I know i'd be worried to death about finding a lump but I really cannot take this time off and DH would be unpaid which we can't afford. I don't want to sound like a heartless cow but she had Friday off at short notice for an uncles funeral and now this, would it be completely awful to ask her to rebook for Wednesday ?

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:28

Happy - I've known her 2.5 years ok ?

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Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:27

I have hardly ever suggested that Angela. Only just goes to show your ignorance of breast cancer dosen't it if you think everyone who has breast cancer dies. Some do, but an awful lot more survive by going through a hell of a lot.

hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:26

Oh, now that's uncalled for AC

rustybear · 03/09/2006 17:26

The difference is that nannynick spent a lot of time advising you on how to give notice to your nanny, which is totally irrelevant if she's a childminder. It just makes people wonder how accurate any of the information you've given here is.

HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 17:26

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:25

According to you the CM/Nanny won't have to worry about fitting anywhere she'll be in a wooden overcoat beforew the week is out.

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hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:24

Your thread re nursery place - is my suggestion a feasible one?

And you say you have a new job starting soon?

Flossam · 03/09/2006 17:24

Although a nanny might fit in better at the mansion than a lowly CM...

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:24

I called her a childminder for simplicity because she does the same job as a childminder at her house but exclusively for me, ie no other mindee's.

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HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:23

No offence to nannies!

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:23

The nanny is under the patio obviously

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HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:23

A nanny is not the same as a childminder!!

noddyholder · 03/09/2006 17:22

oh dear Where is the nanny?

franyfroo · 03/09/2006 17:22

NUTTER

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:21

Thistles - I was talking to the OP - she was the single mum not me.
CM = Nanny, whats in a name, she looks after my child.

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HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 17:21

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:20

Rusty bear that is my plan C job that I may have to take.

I cannot believe our family budget is under discussion, but yes that is exactly the problem. We have a huge mortgage, when DH works it's all fine and dandy, when he doesn't we're stretched to say the very least. I want to work in some capacity to keep my hand in so if it did ever go completely tits up my CV isn't a blank space for 6 years.

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Thistles · 03/09/2006 17:18

AngelaChill, you have a problem!

By AngelaChill on Monday, 28 August, 2006 11:40:55 AM
I've been offered a nursery place which is ideal for us and the other two children are now at school so we no longer really need a nanny. Therefore can I just give her a months notice and say we don't need her anymore ?

By AngelaChill on Monday, 21 August, 2006 10:04:06 PM
As a single mum I wouldn't recommend mentioning anger management issues to your HV or GP, SS get wind pretty quickly and start taking an interest. Be a bit more subtle and enroll on a parenting course or ask for help within the family first.

By AngelaChill on Monday, 28 August, 2006 9:13:21 AM
The cat was hubby's birthday present so he won't hear of it. Securmummy i have emailed you.

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AngelaChill · 03/09/2006 17:17

HenniPenni - no I haven't discussed this because that was the orginal post, shall I discuss this with her or just see what happens when i approach my boss for another day off.
Twigglet - it isn't one day it's the 2nd day in under a week I will have had to take time off because something has come up with my childcare arrangements. The something being perfectly valid reasons but tbh when you're still on the 3 month probationary period my employer like many others couldn't give two hoots why you're not there, they just note the fact that you aren't.
Hopefully this will all be sorted by kind smile by my boss who says it's fine, but somehow I don't think it will and I have no plan B (which i acknowledge is my problem, but it is a problem none the less).

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rustybear · 03/09/2006 17:16

So what about the new job you're starting the week before the Robbie Williams concert?

hunkermunker · 03/09/2006 17:15

I'm missing something here, I think.

Your DH earns £750 a day. All the money you earn goes to the CM. You attachment parent and you hate your job.

Why are you working in this job? I'd have thought you'd be glad to resign. Is DH putting pressure on you to earn money?

I'm struggling to work out why your budget would suffer from the loss of one day's work if he's fulltime. But I can see why it would if he works short-term contracts and is often not earning such a high amount.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 03/09/2006 17:10

OP I think you sound pretty heartless

Twiglett · 03/09/2006 17:07

taking this for real for one moment .. would you want to work for a company who would fire you because your children need you for ONE day

I bloody wouldn't

Twiglett · 03/09/2006 17:06

How dare you have a health scare .. you're fired

still think its trollish

HenniPenni · 03/09/2006 17:05

I don't usually involve myself on threads such as these, but Angela can I ask you if you've approached your c/m and told her your concerns?

If any of my parents had such an issue then I think I would want to know,btw I wouldn't be changing the appointment if I were in the same shoes.