My nanny won't give me her ofsted number

The joys of iPhones. It's annoying when you know your message has been read and no reply

Even if she had out - not sure where certificate is - will try and find it etc

Saying that all my nanny stuff is in a folder that I take to interviews so if any employer needed to know my DBS or public liability no I know where it is and could send it asap

Hope new temp nanny works out and sounds like old nanny won't come back as distance is too far and again may not want to leave her baby as sounds to me you need a childless nanny as your dc has sen

Good luck

I'm surprised this thread is still going strong haha

Glad you got the info you needed OP! Perhaps wait for nanny to contact you now, as said she may not want to return now she has moved house.

Good luck with your childcare! X

I think some people have a very strange attitude. There are things you don't have to do, but you do as part of human decency. If your employer has an unexpected emergency and your baby is three months old, you can dig out your Ofsted number in 3 days. It's perfectly reasonable. And if this sort of thing is typical I can see why you don't have the best relationship. Give and take is even more important if someone works in your home.

The baby is 3mths and the nanny has been seen out and about

At first I thought op was being a bit demanding by 'harassing' her nanny for the number and thought new born baby

But as older and not even one reply in 5days I think is rude of the nanny

What are you doing for childcare at the moment op?

If the nanny is deliberately ignoring the OP, that is rotten.

We don't know that she is do we? There is no rule that says you must always assume the worst of everyone you know? You are allowed to give people the benefit of the doubt. She has a new baby, it's been 5 days. There is every chance she hasn't seen it/has forgotten/is in a bad place and just can't deal with it. To me that seems more likely than the nanny thinking 'what would really enhance my maternity leave is my employer going bust and being unable to pay me'.

I agree with Blondes. I think you have been fine, I think the nanny ignoring you is rotten.

outraged I can't unless I'm camping I desperately wish that I could though! I can be really bad with replying to contact though, I have fibro and when it flares and the fibro fog really kicks in I'm unable to do much apart from work. As soon as I walk into my flat I just switch off. I'm certain I've 'ignored' people for a week or two before that I really shouldn't because of it, entirely through just not being able to cope with new information though rather than because I don't fancy replying It wouldn't surprise me if sleep deprivation from caring for a newborn could cause a similar effect.

I think there are some people who are permanently attached to their phone and they just can't comprehend that other people aren't. I can easily go 48 hours without my phone and I don't even have a newborn as an excuse!

I can see why she would purposefully ignore it if that's the case, as it's obvious that OP doesn't like her! This can go round and round in circles tbh. I highly doubt that she's purposefully ignored OP, because at the end of the day, OP is paying her maternity and unless she has a mega-rich partner they will need the income.

The most likely scenario is that she's gotten distracted, probably hasn't checked her email in a few days (or it's gotten caught up in spam and junk even with junk filters bitter experience ) and just didn't get to the phone. A whole other load of things may have happened too. Such as switching phones, or her phone being broken, or having no signal and being with a company who doesn't push texts through, or a relative is ill and she can't concentrate, or she's on holiday, or just she's having a shit week with the baby and isn't coping with any outside requests. In this day and age we seem to expect people to be available all of the time, or check their phones/computers at least daily, and some people just don't.

I can see why OP doesn't like her -- she hasn't bothered to answer a very simple request in 5 days!

Outraged explains it brilliantly. Your attitude on here is negative, it most likely seeps through. I'm guessing that the nanny isn't stupid. I've once worked for somebody who didn't really like me much and thought that I was stupid, I'm certain that they thought that they hid it very well, but I could tell.

She waited a month till she told you??? That's awful

The fact your nanny hadn't replied at all in now 5 days is awful

Even a text reply saying she didn't know what her no was would have been nice rather then ignoring

Seems you are not keen for her to come back and depending on what sen your dc had also depends if you have a nwoc - obv you have to offer her the job back / but as orginal terms ie no baby / but as a 40min drive she prob won't if has to leave her baby with childcare

Maybe your nanny has changed her phone number?

OP I think you've had a harsh time on this thread, I just wanted to offer some

Sounds like it has come to an end then. I hope the next nanny is better!

I think your negative relationship with her may be colouring your view on this issue. You have the number now though? Hope she doesn't want to come back after her ML.

Mixed feelings on this. How far in to mat leave is she?

After DD1 I barely had the energy to speak for several weeks let alone answer texts like this .

DD2 - was fine and I was functioning normally from day 2 . If she had been my first I would have found it hard to understand why the nanny hadn't replied.

I don't think the way you've gone about contacting her is out of order. Text, email, phone call are all fine imo. Your attitude towards her on this thread is unpleasant imo.

Is she normally rude/inconsiderate?

OP has had a rough ride on here. If my employer texted me while I was on maternity leave and wanted some info, I would at the very LEAST text her back pretty sharpish and say I'll have a look for that. (If I was somewhere where I could get text messages - she and the baby could be trekking in Nepal for all we know.) Just so she knows I'm on the case, even if I can't get to it straight away. Your employer is still your employer when you are on maternity leave! I loved getting my mat leave cheques - it's worth being professional about anything that involves being paid in full and on time.

I don't think you have to speak to your employers when on maternity.