My au pair is great - very experienced in child care, very loving towards my children and she's made our lives a lot easier since she arrived. Last month she told me that when her year with us was up, she'd like to move out bit still work for is as a nanny (she's qualified in her country to work as one). In the nicest possible way, I explained that for me it would mean a lot of money and I would not really gain anything from it. I acknowledged it was normal for her to want her own space, but we wouldn't want to go down that route.
Since then, I get the impression she has stopped to like us. She's still lovely with the kids, but she chats very little with us. She also posts Whatsapp statuses which hint at things bring rubbish at work and her needing a change. Today I saw one of her Fb posts and it was awful, basically saying we were being mean as we would only give her 8 days holiday for Easter, etc. She also said she loved our children and thats why it was difficult to take the decision to leave.
We pay her generously and always try and let her finish early, etc. I am not sure what to do : I know she is good with the kids, but knowing she thinks so little of us is difficult. I am not sure an open conversation will help as she it can only make things more awkward. Any advice?