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Childminder's husband doing school run - dodgy or am I paranoid?

38 replies

slev · 05/02/2014 09:02

That's it basically. Went to see a potential childminder and she said that as she doesn't drive, her husband would be doing the school run (I get the impression he works nights). She might be able to go with him sometimes, depends how many children she's got.

This just didn't sit right with me, and I don't know whether it's quite normal and I'm just being paranoid, or whether I'm right to think it's not okay. She's OFSTED registered and said that he was CRB checked, but I'm still not sure.

Annoyingly, she appears to be the only childminder who's even prepared to do the school pick-up (we've been kicked out of our nanny share so quite desperate!) but I don't want that to blind me to what's acceptable.

Any views on whether this is okay or not? Thanks.

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LyndaCartersBigPants · 05/02/2014 09:25

Why is this dodgy?! He has been crb checked, a legal requirement for any adult living with a childminder, so technically he could work with children too if he did the course.

Given that his role has nothing to do with teaching, nurturing or disciplining the children and he is essentially a taxi/bus driver, I'd have thought that a clean driving licence, a sense of responsibility and a cheery persona would be enough to satisfy parents that he is capable of getting children to school and back.

I don't see why this is an issue, unless you are working on the assumption that all men are paedophiles.

yummystepford · 05/02/2014 09:22

I used to use a cm at weekends, and her husband was lovely and he was there when I first met them, as it was the weekend he was around. His job was a paramedic and he had been crb checked. I was more than happy for him to be around my children and if school runs had have been part of it I wouldn't have minded him doing it. I would prefer him to do school run, than him stay with kids while she did it. You should meet him though and see how you feel. But as long as he is crb checked I wouldn't think it's a bad thing :)

WholeNewProblem · 05/02/2014 09:20

I think you have to meet him first. There is also the important issue of communication with school - you are going to be relying on the CM to be able to tell you if he has had a good day, if any issues are cropping up.

I was an infant teacher for many years and this whole element is a very important part of schooling.

moogy1a · 05/02/2014 09:20

Having my DH do the school run is a godsend in sleet and snow rather than getting little ones out.

lilyaldrin · 05/02/2014 09:19

If I had a pre-school age child I'd much rather they got to stay at home than go on every school run tbh.

lilyaldrin · 05/02/2014 09:17

If he's registered as her assistant/co-minder then I don't see the problem. Why would it be "dodgy"? I think childminders can work with up to two or three other people.

moogy1a · 05/02/2014 09:17

He has to be a registered assistant to do this. If he is, I really don't get the problem?
flatmum why is this a reflag? My dh is my assistant and we do one school run each. I'm assuming he's not suddenly becoming a child molester on the school run Confused

starfishmummy · 05/02/2014 09:16

I think it would depend on whether her husband was properly crb checked and insured to be doing this.

slev · 05/02/2014 09:10

DS is 3 so still under EYFS etc.

I don't really know what I'm worried about just not sure if this is okay. It's our first time working with a childminder (previously we used a nursery and then a nanny share with someone we already knew) so there's probably a general uncertainty anyway.

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flatmum · 05/02/2014 09:08

That would be a red flag for me I think. My cm husband occasionally helps out but generally you are paying of the relationship with the actual cm and I think te school run is a big part of this. I do know of one cm couple where they are both registered cms but this caused problems as they just crammed in too many kids.

Chocotrekkie · 05/02/2014 09:08

I would rather he did the school run tbh - saves taking little kids out when they don't need to go and he can focus/chat to the school age ones.

A year 1 child at our school ran across the road in front of me as she had seen her friend. The cm was busy getting a stroppy tired toddler into a buggy.

Gave us all a huge fright - I stopped in time so didn't hit her but....

2cats2many · 05/02/2014 09:06

I guess that if they are sharing the childminder job, I'd want to meet both of them and talk about it before I decided whether or not to employ them. I'd want to be shown his CRB along with all her other papers and policies.

Are you worried specifically about abuse? If so, is there a reason why you are worried about it?

ForgettableTampon · 05/02/2014 09:05

How old are the children? Slightly diff regs apply to over 8s iirc

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