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What's the best way to ask AP not to use my iPad?

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CobOnTheCorn · 21/01/2014 18:30

So, AP has been with us for 6 months. I think she is very good. There are some minor Tensions but I'm taking into consideration that I am easily annoyed!

Anyway yesterday I was out all morning, she knew I would be, and when I got back there were four emails sent to her from my iPad. They had photo attachments. I am positive it was her because they were sent when I was doing the school run and there photos I had shown her and she liked.

Now, I don't like people using my stuff without asking. It feels especially sneaky as it was only 10 or so minutes after I left the house - as if she was waiting for me to leave. Why didn't she just ask me to send them to her?

Do I casually say "I see you've sent some emails from my iPad, please can you check with me next time".

Or hide it when I'm out - not my preferred option as it doesn't address the issue but at least I don't have to have a difficult conversation!

Or take a firmer line?

What else has she been sneaking about doing?

Maybe I'm just not cut out to share a house with someone...

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pootlebug · 21/01/2014 18:56

Some people seem to be very protective of 'their' electronic devices (phone, laptop, iPad etc). Others just see them as things - in the same way as the kettle and microwave as the poster above says.

I usually offer my laptop to our regular babysitter, although she has usually brought her own. My DH and Dad also regularly use my laptop and I don't really care who else does. It could be that she just doesn't see it in the same way. Does she have a computer/ipad of her own? If not then I would understand her desire to send emails etc.

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Heebiejeebie · 21/01/2014 18:52

Why on earth do you mind?

CobOnTheCorn · 21/01/2014 18:52

Yes, I do consider it private but I don't want her to think I had anything specific I was hiding from her.

We have lots of those chats - always instigated by me. I've started to just mention thing as I see them now

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CobOnTheCorn · 21/01/2014 18:47

Thanks, I shall set a PIN.

I'd still like to say something so will sleep on it.

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N4nny90 · 21/01/2014 18:45

The family i nanny for and i have had a very open relationship from day 1. Maybe have a catch up chat to see how shes getting on and bring up anything your not entirely happy with. I would change the pin on your iPad or move it somewhere she can't get too. Its very cheeky omf her to use your things without asking. I think you should mention it. Maybe say for privacy reasons you don't want her using it.

N4nny90 · 21/01/2014 18:45

The family i nanny for and i have had a very open relationship from day 1. Maybe have a catch up chat to see how shes getting on and bring up anything your not entirely happy with. I would change the pin on your iPad or move it somewhere she can't get too. Its very cheeky omf her to use your things without asking. I think you should mention it. Maybe say for privacy reasons you don't want her using it.

nannynick · 21/01/2014 18:35

Tell her that you should she need to use your iPad then she needs to ask you first. That way it is not saying that you know she has used it but is stating that she is not free to use it whenever she wishes.

Put pin lock on if you are going to leave it laying around. Easy for you to enter the code in should a child wish to use it.

WhoNickedMyName · 21/01/2014 18:33

*she, not age?!

WhoNickedMyName · 21/01/2014 18:33

Change your PIN number so age can't unlock it.

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