What's the best way to ask AP not to use my iPad?

Heebiejeebie ah I did not realise that. Thank you for pointing it out. I would probably be okay with that then.

I think just be straight. Say sorry I don't like sharing my iPad but if you want any photos just let me know and I will email.
She is probably young, not sneaky, looked at photos, clicked on them, then option to email comes up so she sent to herself.
She might be embarrassed when you tell her but at least she will know.
And nothing wrong in not wanting to share IMO

For all those worried about her using the o's email, to send a photo you don't log into the email account, you just click on the photo and a send option comes up

I don't think she was being sneaky!
I think you sound as if your feeling worried and thinking too much into it.
She probably thought it was no issue and would be more than embarrassed to know it had annoyed you.
If I was you to save upsetting both yourselves, stick a password on it and if your children are old enough you could use the excuse that it is to stop children using it.

I wouldn't mind if someone used my ipad if I wasn't there, what I think is the issue is her going into your email account and actually sending emails from it (albeit to herself).

I'd probably be too shy to say something!
I'd either keep my accounts logged out or keep ipad away.

Did you say anything?

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To me sharing my iPad would be like sharing my underwear. I might in a pinch let someone close to me borrow it in an emergency if I'd checked it was clean :)

I have nothing to hide but, gadgets are personal to me.

Sorry place she can't find it...

If it's an iPad just put it some PCM he can't find it. Is it the only computer you have? Outrageous she used your email acct.

She waited until you went out and then logged into your personal email account and used it to send photo attachments to herself from your online photo album? I think that's seriously overstepping the mark and I'd feel very uncomfortable in your shoes. If you are going to share your home with someone, give them the keys to the front door and leave your children in their care, you have to be able to trust them. I would feel perfectly comfortable about our nanny using our iPad as I trust her not to invade our privacy. If I found she had done what you've described I'd probably be looking for a new nanny.

Well if she used it loads you'd have to charge it more and I read that an ipad battery will only charge a certain amount of times. After so many charges the cells start dying. So on that basis I would mind.

Sounds like it may just have been a one off as she liked your photos. So I would do a PIN number and not say anything.

I really don't see the problem - why on earth can't she use it?

I think she should have asked first, my 'gadgets' are private and I wouldn't expect anyone to start using them without asking, but;

a) I wouldn't worry about the time that she used it. If she's emailed herself from your account she wasn't exactly covering her tracks/hiding the fact that she'd used it. She's either really, really stupid, or just thought it wouldn't be a problem. I assume the latter?

b) Don't say this 'If you want to use my ipad please could you ask first."' unless the answer is going to be 'yes' most of the time. If you don't want her to use it (which is what it sounds like) make that clear.

I would be really hacked off if someone had been into my email account. When we first got our iPad, it was one of the things that bothered me, that my emails were always available for others in the family to look at. But, I don't have secrets from my husband and there is nothing in my emails that I wouldn't want him to see, I don't think he would look either. But, your ap isn't family or your spouse so it is a completely different. She shouldn't be looking at your emails and then resending them to herself. She should have asked you to send them to her. I think it looks sneaky that she waited for you to go out and then went straight on the iPad, she knew she shouldn't be doing it, but did it anyway.

I haven't got an iPad but dh has- he uses it for work.

We both work with children & there are all sorts of data protection issues. An iPad is as private as a phone.

It's not on.

I would never go into anyone else's email, any more than I would open someone else's post. I'm actually quite shocked that she did that. If it was me,I'd probably chicken out of actually saying anything and just put a pin on it.

Oh, I had assumed they were of the children TBH! But yes landscapes is perfectly innocent

I think then perhaps just put a pin onto it and/or say "If you want to use my ipad please could you ask first."

Perhaps you could set up a folder on the computer with the name "Family Photos" which she is allowed to download as much as she wants, for example.

Have just re-read the OP. It would probably be worth clarifying the situation with the photos as well. Is she allowed to take her own photos, is it OK if she takes copies of your photos, if so, how would you like her to do that, and would you like her to ask first? It's understandable (IMO) if she wants photos of the children or of local attractions to remember her time with you, and because hopefully she's quite attached to the children! But it would be a bit odd if she was downloading photos of your husband playing football, for example.

I would imagine that this situation is the former, but it would be worth going through rules - I wouldn't want someone browsing through my private photos and downloading all the ones they liked, but if a relative or someone else close to my DC said (when I was showing them) "Oh, that's a lovely photo. I'd love to have a copy of that." then I'd be happy to email it to them or whatever. I'd just like to be asked first? Pictures in the public domain e.g. facebook or whatever, again, different, but yeah. I would find it a bit weird to see that someone had emailed themselves photos from my iPad without asking first.

Say 'AP, can you not use my Ipad, cheers.'

Don't beat around the bush.

She should definitely have asked, but maybe didn't feel comfortable to? If she knows you're easily annoyed maybe she thought you'd get angry?

But even if you did have something to hide, that's perfectly fine. You're entitled to a private life! Who knows, you and DH might have recorded your bedtime antics on there for posterity

But also I wouldn't like someone sending emails or facebook from my iPad because the point of an iPad is it's always logged into yours, no point if you have to keep logging in and out all the time.

Although I agree with a PP that it is important to give her some kind of access to her emails, especially if she's living in a strange country far from home. You could even set her up with her own "user" on a family computer or laptop.