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Childminder passing comment on my life

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Reindeerpoopscoop · 13/12/2013 22:45

I will state from the start that I have no concerns for my child's care while they are at the childminder.

But the childminder has made a few comments that Made me feel crap about myself.

My DP runs his own business and is very busy working every day. I work part time two days and also help with my dp's business and also do bookkeeping for two other small businesses from home. DD goes to childminder three days a week (two of which I go to my proper job). One of the days she is at the childminder I use run errands, do weekly food shop and house chores and cooking. I feel by doing this it means DD gets to have fun while I am doing the boring stuff and I have more time to spend with her when she is at home.

Childminder has made a few comments about me "not working today" and says to DD mummy has to go "shopping"

She commented on a "lovely" top I was wearing one day (it was from a supermarket, 4 years old and washed to death) "she never gets time to herself to go shopping"

Comment on Facebook about never getting a day to herself.

I feel that she thinks I am leaving DD with her to go off and have fun.

She also makes lots of comments about hating Mondays and can't believe the weekend is over. Feels great when she is going to be looking after DD.

Am I just being too sensitive because I do feel guilty leaving DD.

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superram · 13/12/2013 22:51

What if you were going to have fun everyday-spend the day having lunch and drink or a facial?

It is no business of hers what you do. I am a teacher and had my children in a none term time nursery. Sometimes I went to work in the holidays, some days I went for lunch-it was no business of nursery what I wax doing.

GideonKipper · 13/12/2013 22:49

She sounds like a bit of a martyr, but then again a lot of people moan about work and feeling hard done by. It's her job; she gets paid for it so it's nothing to do with her what you do while you pay her to look after your dd. If you genuinely are happy with the standard of her care then just make a point of ignoring her comments.