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Night Nannies, a few questions

36 replies

RoomForALittleOne · 17/11/2013 08:43

So DD3 (DC4) is exhausting me and I'm desperate. I'm considering getting a night nanny for a couple of nights so that I can get some less interrupted sleep. But I'm not sure if I would actually get any more sleep as DD3 is breastfed and still in the room with us. Also, how does a night nanny settle a baby back to sleep? I'm not keen on DD3 thinking that she is going to be rocked/cuddled back to sleep forevermore. I love the idea if someone else taking DD3 for the night but can't see how it would work.

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mrswishywashy · 20/11/2013 01:43

I'd do Dr Jay Gordons night weaning plan. I also wouldn't do it unless parents wanted to stop the night waking and is support them in setting up a plan.

I wouldn't do the wakings with no plan set in place as at 18 months a child most likely wouldn't settle back to sleep with me.

SuiGeneris · 19/11/2013 23:15

What would a night nanny do with an 18-month old who wakes every 90 minutes to feed?

ReetPetit · 19/11/2013 21:47

don't see the point personally in paying out for this. if you are breastfeeding you are still going to have to wake up and also have someone else hanging around Hmm unless you are happy for baby to take bottles of course. can't your partner help you in the night? what help is it you need? if babies are breastfed other people are limited in what they can do anyway!!

Nannyowl · 19/11/2013 20:38

I work as a night nanny and don't sleep at night, but that's just me. I don't work in the day so sleep then. I sometimes catnap after the 2-3 pm feed; but I feel worse if I actually sleep.
In the morning I dress baby for the day, make mum breakfast if she wants this.
Back to OPs question. Sometimes OP babies do settle more easily for others they pick up on your anxiety if you are very tired too.
Cuddling and rocking the baby will not help you to settle them the next night. So kept to a minimum unless mum wants.

Objection · 19/11/2013 18:20

I've been a nanny for about 3 years now, is there anything particular you would need to specialise in?

I presume a lot of night nannies work during the day too? ( in other jobs )

(sorry for hijack OP!)

mrswishywashy · 19/11/2013 17:59

Most will sleep when baby rest occaisionally there are waking nights but these are usually paid more and only if baby is ill and needs extra waking.

Depending on family I will make sure any sterilising is done and nursery is in order for the night. Will feed or wind baby when needed throughout the night and sleep in between. Will make sure bottles etc are sterilised before I leave in morning. Will give any advice if parents need it.

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/11/2013 16:21

I normally do 9-7 so get there at 9pm and chat to parents about last day/since I've been there

I give them a sheet to fill in daily and discuss any queries they have

Parents go to bed and I wash and steralize any bottles

Normally feed 10/11pm and change and wind and resettle and then I sleep

An wait for bubs to wake me 2/3....., as get older and drink more and sleep longer - and again as above change wind settle and sleep

So if I'm lucky I sleep 2/3hrs after each feed :)

Objection · 19/11/2013 15:48

What do Night Nannies do whilst the baby is asleep? Do they sleep as well?

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/11/2013 19:18

as below, i like to be different Wink i take baby into mum if bf, and then some i sit and talk, others i go out of room and mum texts me - whatever they want

i then change and settle and mum goes back to sleep

i dont rock babies to sleep, they learn as mrs ww said to self settle, obv dont leave them crying, but if unsettled then i rub back, or do pat/shush method

how do you settle, or does dds fall asleep on boob and then you put down?

a good night nanny will do follow what you do, but will also offer suggestions as well if they feel they will be of help to you :)

again as mrs ww said, some express so i do the 2/3am feed and mum sleeps, some also use formula for night feed

all are different, it depends what you want :)

mrswishywashy · 17/11/2013 14:12

As above:

I take baby to mother to feed. Make sure mother has a drink with her. Sometimes will sit with mother but not always. Mostly do nappy change half way through feed. After feed will try to get baby to sleep with minimal props although am ok if a family would like baby to be cuddled to sleep. It is age dependent and I'd say by six weeks most babies I've helped have being self settling to sleep most of the time. I don't do controlled crying so if baby needs more support to get to sleep I will cuddle rock but ideally won't. Basically I respect the families needs and the babies needs and try to make it so that when I leave baby settles well after night feeds.

I've also done expressed milk for middle of night feed/s. MOther usually expresses earlier in the day and then she can have a good sleep at night. I've never found it influences supply, sometimes the mothers may express at night because it takes a shorter amount of time so they get maximum sleep.

With babies six months plus I will do more sleep encouraging consultations but don't need to do them with babies I've already worked with because they've naturally slept through.

NomDeClavier · 17/11/2013 09:53

Night nanny will bring baby to you for feeds, then when you're done do the burping and popping back down in Moses basket/crib which they'll have in a room with them according to your instructions. They'll deal with any sick ups, nappy changes, etc.

If you can express one bottle then they could do one bottle feed and the rest BFs which on the odd occasion shouldn't mess up your supply (although that depends how old your DD is).