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Toilet related! Differences between CM & nursery

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ZenNudist · 13/11/2013 22:17

If be interested in CM viewpoint on this. The question equally applies to nursery staff.

Is it acceptable for one of your charges to have 6 wee accidents in a day? If they are 3.2yo & have been potty trained for 6m?

Ds does have lots of wee accidents at nursery. More than he has at home with me. They often send him home having gone through three sets of clothes, which I think is showing lack if care on their part. Today they reached a low of 6 changes. I think this shows lack of care on the nursery's part. I'm also concerned they are teaching him that its ok to wet himself! AIBU?

Ds is similar to lots of my friends' dcs who will hold out on going to the loo or say he doesn't need it when he does. At home with me I keep an eye out and ask/make him go to the loo. Usually when I want a wee I ask him if he needs it too.

I recognise its different when you have lots of children to look after. Am I being unfair on nursery? Or are they doing a bad job on teaching good toilet habits?

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OutragedFromLeeds · 13/11/2013 22:37

You're doing a bad job on teaching good toilet habits. If he doesn't go unless asked/made to he isn't potty trained imo. There is no way in a group care situation they can be constantly checking if he needs the loo. You need to teach him to go when he needs to. YABU.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 13/11/2013 22:34

6 accidents in a day is a lot.

Is he really potty trained or do you ask and take him to the toilet a lot when he's with you OP?

IME children often get so engrossed in an activity that they put off going until the very last minute and then don't quite get their clothes sorted in time at the toilet. Is that what's happening and he is making an effort to get to the toilet or is he just wetting anywhere?

Maryann1975 · 13/11/2013 22:30

6 accidents a day is a lot if they have been potty trained for 6 months. If you didn't ask your ds to go, how many accidents would he have with you? My dd had three accidents yesterday, more that she was forgetting to go till the last minute and couldn't get there on time. Is he so engrossed in what he is doing he forgets? As a cm I would be reminding him to go more often though, partly because I don't want wee in the carpets, but more because its better for him to wee in the toilet than his pants. What reaction do they have when he wets himself, if he is thinking it's ok he may keep doing it. I'm going to go down the tough love route with dd as it is not ok to have so many accidents after being dry for 12 months.

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