Long story but dd 3.5, has been going to her current cm since Easter after her previous minder changed jobs, having had dd since she was 3 months old. New minder has a 2 year old and a 9 year old plus has a 5 year old after school. dd goes 4 days afternoons after being at nursery in the mornings.
We learned today by a letter from her which she put in dd's bag (not told it was there), that her ds and dd are not getting on. In a nutshell, he screams every time he sees her. Apart from the 1st couple of days when she had dd, she has not told us that there was this problem. dh picks up every day and she has never told him there's a problem. I went round Tuesday night to collect dd's shoes, she'd left there and she never said anything despite the fact that we chatted for 20 minutesnd then I get this letter.
Having talked to dd, she is really unhappy, c/m and her ds is really unhappy so we agreed to part company from now.
Now I'm stuffed. I have back to back meetings/client visits until we are on holiday on 11th August. dh can't take any time off work and there are only 3 minders with vacanies where we live, funnilly enough 1 of those being her c/m who said she wasn't taking on anymore children and yet last Friday, she posted a vacancy so I think this has been planned. She also changed her agreement on how she would charge in schoolholidays which I had to accept. It's almost like she has being trying to get us to remove dd. 2 of the others can't do the nursery pick up and I wont know about the other until I can call her tomorrow but the fees she is quoting are £2.00 more than we were paying the 1st minder and she charges full day as opposed to half day , again unlike 1st minder who just charged for the actual hours she had her.
dd finished for 10 weeks school holiday today so now I have to drive dd to my mums on Sunday, collect her on Tuesday, take her to in-laws on Wednesday and pick her up Thursday and do this until I can find a minder. I feel really peeved that she has dealt with itlike this and not had the decency to speak to us.
To get this letter today, having just got dd's nursery report saying what a happy friendly and bright child she is is really upsetting.