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Our nanny seems to have been using our tumble dryer...

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PacificDogwood · 01/11/2013 21:28

She has been working for us for 2 years.
She's had some upset in her personal life in the last few months which she has kept close to her chest as is her right of course.

On 3 or 4 occasions now I have noticed that the tumble dryer is still warm when I come in, there had been none of our laundry to be done and the fluff filter was thickly coated in fluff including what I can only assume is dog hair (we have no pets, she has a dog and a cat). I empty the fluff filter after each use so have a fair idea what is usually in there.

Now, if she has a problem getting stuff done at home, I'd be happy for her to use our appliances (we are trying to reduce electricity bills and I only use the tumble dryer for a few minutes to fluff things up and then hang everything on our ceiling pulley thing, but hey ho, if she is stuck I'd be happy to help).

It's the fact she's not asked that does not sit right with me .
And I don't know how to approach this: "According to our fluff filter you have had unauthorised use of the dryer"??

Any words of advice?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 05/11/2013 23:45

Thank you :)

Bubs is asleep and I must go to we before my alarm call of 2/3am goes off :)

But will go and read :)

giraffesCantGoGuising · 05/11/2013 23:41

here you go blondes :)

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/11/2013 23:36

Did you ask her outright? And she said no to using it for her stuff and just towels?

I would let it lie

Giraffes - I'm Entrigued by the fanjo thread !!!!!!

giraffesCantGoGuising · 05/11/2013 23:21

Am sure your DSs wouldn't remember me unless they have super human memory! I could pretend to be nanny from hell and see what she confesses too...am sure it would be nothing though. She does sound nice, fingers crossed she just been having a shit time and will be sorted soon.

giraffesCantGoGuising · 05/11/2013 23:19

in chat - my fanjos on fire or summit. Over dosed big style on antihistamines yest - in my defense I work for a Dr too and she is always telling me what I can take extra doses of that is not on the packet iykwim.

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PacificDogwood · 05/11/2013 23:16

giraffes, you could be my mole .

I like her, she reacted non-defensively, we're still pals (well, employer/employee, but you know ).

Fanjo thread?? Where?
Happy to be of help

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giraffesCantGoGuising · 05/11/2013 23:13

You have made it clear you "know" now. I would monitor the situation and see. Or shall I befriend her nanny to nanny and ask?

ps Now I have helped you in my area of expertise it is your turn...come help my fanjo thread!!

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PacificDogwood · 05/11/2013 16:29

Ok.

I spoke to her today. She did not own up to using the dryer for her own use, just to dry towels. She did not know where the fluff filter was, so I showed her. All I know is I can wash and dry several loads of towels and not generate the amount of fluff (and hair) than what I found after 1 day when she was using it.

I am still a bit , but fair'enuff. I like her, she's having a rubbish time of it, she now knows what I have been wondering about. Really hope it is all as it appears.

chloe, it is not about her using the washing machine/dryer (that's part of her agreed duties anyway) but her using it for her own stuff without asking. The kids like her, I like her, so no problem there.

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chloeb2002 · 05/11/2013 15:30

I guess ... Firstly .. I'd ask are the kids happy! Really using the washing machine : dryer.. Is trivial? Not like she will put a load on and sit and watch it! More likely she gets on with other chores while it washes! Maybe she just adds a few of her bits to your stuff and just uses the dryer for everything so it can all be out away and neat.
I guess I'd start with the big picture.. The kids. Good nannies are hard to find!

WhatABeautifulPussy · 04/11/2013 16:45

I got rid of our washer dryer because it didn't have a fluff filter. It also wasn't self cleaning...

I don't know what hours your nanny works but is it possible she hasn't had time at home and doesn't want to leave hers running when she isn't in the house? Or do you think she's just been doing all her laundry at yours - washing and drying?

DuchessFanny · 04/11/2013 15:36

I love filter fluff - very cathartic emptying it out, another one is emptying the stinky filter in the washing machine, last time there was a colour catcher and a small sock in there !

But as for the OP I wouldn't mind if I was asked, surely it's just common courtesy to ask ( unless she is indeed drying coats after school pick up, etc - then it's a given !)

eurochick · 04/11/2013 15:25

We have a washer drier without a fluff filter. Really. Unsurprisingly the dryer bit stopped working after a year or so. Stupid design (a Hotpoint too, so you would expect them to have figured out how these things work). I had spent ages looking through the manual and online to try to figure out how to empty the filter, but it's not actually possible. We're about to replace it.

StainlessSteelBegonia · 04/11/2013 15:21

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ExitPursuedByABear · 04/11/2013 15:18

I love clearing our fluff filter too. We are a two horse and one dog family so there is all sorts of interesting stuff in there.

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PacificDogwood · 04/11/2013 15:13

Oh! I had not thought of checking the washing machine

I'll see her tomorrow and will have it out with her along the lines of "i've noticed you've been using the dryer. Is there a problem at home?" or something. I really would've preferred her to have asked - DH is now all paranoid 'what else she gets up to when alone in our house'. Sigh.

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oscarwilde · 04/11/2013 15:09

Hmm - using your employers home to potentially do your own washing and drying is tantamount to stealing the toilet rolls from the office in my opinion.
Someone coming in by car could easily be bringing all their own laundry. If the OP has not been consulted "washer blown up; short-term, would you mind? etc" then it's dishonest and very cheeky.
I'm with the menz on this one. I wouldn't be dishing out any written warnings just yet but I would keep an idea on the fluff filter for a bit. It may have been a one off but if it's regular then you need to decide whether it is going to be worth the very awkward conversation about monitoring the fluff

How is the filter on the washing machine? Full of pet hair?

lifesgreatquestions · 03/11/2013 08:07

I wouldn't feel taken advantage of in this scenario, but I would teach her about the filters asap.

giraffesCantGoGuising · 03/11/2013 07:57

Hello :)

You could just say something about noticing the drier had been used lots and just to hang kids stuff up? So a wee hint that you have noticed.

Can#t believe that is 2 years!

Blondeshavemorefun · 02/11/2013 21:12

course you cant give a written warning for her using the trumble dryer, far too harsh also you dont actually know she was using it, tho sounds as if she was

lol at dh being the fluff fairy

mummytime · 02/11/2013 19:54

I am proud because after hunting last year (on hearing here their might be such a thing), a couple of weeks ago I found the second fluff filter.

It ranks right up there with fixing the washing machine (but less messy).

Newer towels give more fluff in my experience. I dry them until dry (well cupboard dry), and they are lovely and soft.

clam · 02/11/2013 19:43

It's more satisfying if you leave it for a few cycles before de-fluffing.

nbee84 · 02/11/2013 19:22

Arctic - there is no filter to clear fluff from on my washer-dryer (which I don't use to dry clothes anyway). Taken from the manual - "The washer-dryer is fitted with a self cleaning pump which does not require any maintenance."

Oh and just to comment on the op - I'm a nanny and the only time I've used the washer or dryer at work I've asked permission first - very cheeky of your nanny not to.

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PacificDogwood · 02/11/2013 17:58

Oh, I have embraced my inner weirdo a long time ago

I've just done a load of towels and I don't dry them dry, just give them 5-10min so they are not stiff when dry and the is hardly a molecule of fluff in the filter.
The stuff I removed yesterday was so thick you could hardly pull it apart

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LeBearPolar · 02/11/2013 17:53

11 years of fluff would have been amazing.

My favourite fluff filter clearing is just after the towels have been done. It's so soft

I'm a bit worried about myself now. How long is it until Strictly starts??

TheArticFunky · 02/11/2013 17:51

He hasn't shown me where it is. He rolled his eyes and pulled a face. I really ought to take my domestic responsibilities more seriously Dh nearly choked on his food once when I said that I felt guilty for not recycling, apparently we have always recycled everything and dh was a bit put out that he had been doing it without me even noticing.

I'm not coming across well am I? I do plenty of other stuff.

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