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WWYD re nanny

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HelloDolly · 30/06/2006 21:57

We went out on wednesday night and our nanny babysat as usual. When we got home she mentioned that our middle child had played up a bit and called K upstairs 4 times but there was nothing wrong so in the end K just left her to cry and after 10 mins she was asleep.
Well of course middle DD spent the entire night and next day throwing up and generally being unwell.
I know the nanny couldn't have known she was ill but do you think it's out of order she just let her cry ? She knows we dn't do controlled crying with the baby.
TIA

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HappyMumof2 · 02/07/2006 08:51

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trinityrhino · 02/07/2006 08:51

wow, I am shocked.
she's 4 for goodness sake
she didn't tell the babysitter that she felt ill

she was probably just upset cause you had gone out

"we have a babysitter two nights a weeks cause we don't have grandparents and we need a break"

jesus woman, you're complaining about the babaysitter leaving her to settle herself when you're going out when she's not well

you need to take a step back and look at what your doing

I wish I could get out once a month let alone twice a week

think yourself lucky or if you don't like the way the babysitter is looking after your chilfdren then quit going out so much

Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 02/07/2006 08:39

I wipe arses but that's because I have a severely disabled 7 year old and a baby (and a 4 year old I have managed to persuade to wipe his own arse hoorah!) Never been a nanny in my life. Good friend was one and had some stories to tell about certain mothers and can see why.

You need a break 2 nights a week? Even when your child is chucking up? Weird.

Why would anyone make the point of calling a babysitter a nanny???

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Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 01:14

I agree VVV. For the benefit of all concerned

VeniVidiVickiQV · 02/07/2006 01:12

I stick to my original post.

looneytune · 02/07/2006 01:09

As for 2 nights out a week - oh dear, poor HD

looneytune · 02/07/2006 01:08

I'm sat here in my brothers house, waiting for him to get back (long story, on other thread) and was relieved to have Mumsnet but getting bored when I saw this thread - TOTALLY MAD!!!

Seriously, no problem in being a bit upset at difference of opinion but then forgetting about it but she's the rudest snobby sounding person I have not met

Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 01:03

Am still mildly in shock, and sniggering sporadically, over this thread

Worra witch!

looneytune · 02/07/2006 00:37

Greensleeves - just read your post and TOTALLY AGREE!

looneytune · 02/07/2006 00:36

BTW, nice night out? I hope so for the nanny's sake - poor girl!

looneytune · 02/07/2006 00:32

PMSL BIG TIME. I so needed this tonight!!! .

I'm not the sort to get involved with stuff like this but this is the the most over the top thread I've ever seen on Mumsnet.

HD - you've never actually confirmed how much 'mothering' you do. I'm sorry but you sound like the most unreasonable person EVER and there's no way I'd look after your children no matter how much you paid me you MAD WOMAN!! (this really is out of character for me but you sound 'barking'!)

Have you got other problems in your life at the moment as I really just don't 'get' the way you've behaved on here!

Thanks for the entertainment though!!!

rickman · 02/07/2006 00:13

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Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 00:12
Blu · 02/07/2006 00:12

Parents, including MOTHERS, are often in angst because they thought a child was playing up, acted accordingly, and then found the child was coming down with something.

Every single one of us has done it.

haven't we?

rickman · 02/07/2006 00:12

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Skribble · 02/07/2006 00:12

PMSL laughing at least Nannies get paid to wipe arses while mums do it for free.

Must be great to be able to blame kid being ill on the hired help.

Gosh she only went up 4 times and then left her for a whole 10 mins .

hunkermunker · 02/07/2006 00:12

HC, perhaps if you spent some time with your children you wouldn't have such a precious head in clouds attitude to how they should be brought up.

Heavens, you're rude. And that's me saying that!

Greensleeves · 02/07/2006 00:10

I think HelloDolly has the very worst attitude of anyone I've ever seen on MN

What an obnoxious snob.

SecurMummy · 02/07/2006 00:04

PMSL - two nights a week for a break I am lucky to manage 2 night a year (although I also use a qualified nanny - does that make me a better person?)

This is one of those road-crash threads isn't it?

NannyL · 01/07/2006 23:57

A nannies job is to wipe arses

lets just say that is NOT my job... and any person who even THINKS thats what a nannies job is is NOT the type of person most nannies would be happy working for

we are professionals.... i have a DEGREE BSc honours and earn more money than most of my graduate friends....

Im not going to go into what our job is..... but most if not all (except yourself, so it seems) good bosses who employ nannies know exactly what a good nanny does and if you asked 100 i bet not even 1 would answer "my nanny wipes arses!"

NannyL · 01/07/2006 23:52

Thank you "wish i could give up work"

dont worry though.... i think i and all my (very respectable) employers know what type of nanny i am.... why else would i have 9 families fighting over me as i change job in september?... (while i know many nannies who are finding it VERY difficult to find ANY work at all)

I also can see i have the majority opinion.... that a child crying is NOT the end of the world... they are children they cry etc etc

I agree HD should look after her kids herself..... then they can be happy 24/7 and NEVER EVER cry

suejonez · 01/07/2006 23:16

Let me get this right - your question was "do you think it's out of order she just let her cry?"

The majority (though not all) of the replies said they thought it wasn't out of order and that the babysitter had acted reasonably. You then resorted to name calling "who the hell do you think you are", "you're quite clearly a prat end of story", and the whole thing seems to have deteriorated from there.

Just summarising, as I am this weeks threadkiller so will probably act like the kiss of death to this pointless discussion.

rickman · 01/07/2006 23:15

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HelloDolly · 01/07/2006 23:01

I'm more than a bit pissed off, yes

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