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Am I being annoying?

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crikeybill · 08/10/2013 14:14

Ds started with a childminder two months ago for three days a week. I still send a daily text asking if he is ok, any problems etc. The messages back are getting shorter and today was just a " he's ok ".
Im not checking up on her. I trust her completely she comes well recommended and I know several mums from school who have used her. Because she collects ftom my older child's school I have seen her in action so I know she's fab.

I suppose im just sitting here wondering how my boy is and what he's doing. I don't want to piss her off though. Is it not the done thing ? Ive never used a cm before should I stop the daily text is it annoying ?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 08/10/2013 15:10

I thought cm had to do a daily diary for ofsted requirements ?

Course you miss him but sure he is having fun and better that then him upset and crying /missing you

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crikeybill · 08/10/2013 14:38

I thought i probably was being annoying Blush I just miss him :(

Ok fair enough i will stop. Your quite right she would text me if there was a problem. She doesn't do a daily diary we just tend to have a chat when I pick him up. Sometimes she has taken pics on her phone and she shows me them.
Thanks.

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TobyLerone · 08/10/2013 14:24

I'm not a childminder but that would drive me insane.

She'll let you know if there's something wrong. Otherwise you can assume he's fine. Anything else looks like checking up on her, regardless of what you say.

NickNacks · 08/10/2013 14:23

Hmm yes that is quite annoying after such a long time. Can't you assume he's ok unless you hear otherwise?

Sorry that seems harsh but if all my parents text or phoned my every day I'd get nothing done and it takes me away from the children. Does she do a diary so you can see how he's been that day?

Bonkerz · 08/10/2013 14:23

I'm a childminder and have parents who need this level of contact during the day. I am happy to send photos via wassap or via inbox on Facebook and happy to reply to texts but sometimes I'm too busy to reply straight away. I explain this to parents. I do a daily contact book too and send photos home regularly. Talk to your CM and see if there is a best time to text..........

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/10/2013 14:22

Tbh I'm sure you already are annoying (sorry)

Your cm should do you a basic diary of dc day so you know what they are doing

I did a mum on a regular basis as a nanny and she drove me insane texting every day 2/3 times to ask if everything was ok and what we were doing. Wa in the summer so text 1 was normally - at park/ in garden all fine - text 2 lunchtime - my reply - all fine having lunch and 3rd at 5pm and asking was all ok

If every mum in her care texted all the time and cm sent long replies she would never spend anytime playing with the children

If your son is happy there and settled then don't worry - all is fine :)

What she could do as I do - is send emails with pics on them of what she is doing with the children