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CMs - No appreciation after 5yrs of care

33 replies

Deepgreensea · 29/09/2013 21:30

I wasn't expecting a card/gift etc. Just a few kind words would have been nice. I asked for a reference type letter to keep in my file - not even that was done.

For 5yrs I have taken care of their child. Not to mention I have been accommodating and flexible. I don't understand some people. On Friday they collected their child as usual...end of.

I'm bewildered. Sad

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HSMMaCM · 30/09/2013 12:01

fleacircus - yes, do send a picture. Also send a note saying she is still fondly remembered and she can include it in the stuff she shows Ofsted and future parents.

fleacircus · 30/09/2013 10:33

I should say, I did give her an excellent reference, presents, card etc when DD left - those parents just sound unbelievably thoughtless, Deepgreensea.

fleacircus · 30/09/2013 10:32

I was just thinking yesterday about DD's first childminder - DD was with her from 8mths to 2.5yrs, when I stopped working while we organised moving. DD is 5 now, was wondering if old CM was likely to live at the same address as I thought I might send a pic of DD in school uniform with Christmas card, but thought that might be too weird. Is she likely to remember DD, or be remotely interested, do you think? She was fairly young and quite new to CMing so DD was one of her first babies, and she was fab, she was proper London and used to say 'She's been good as gold and happy as Larry' when I picked DD up. Loved it.

mindingalongtime · 30/09/2013 10:26

I've had a few like that in 25 years, it it those you least expect it from that show their appreciation. I find the more professional they are in their line of work, the less you get back.

I think they fee that ou are paid to do a job, job done, end of. I just want a few words too, thank you very much would suffice.

smallandimperfectlyformed · 30/09/2013 07:38

Poor you, that's horrible. It's a reflection on them, not you. It's really not nice of them not to have given you a reference.

moogy1a · 30/09/2013 07:35

I had this once. Normal pick up, not a word of thanks or even goodbye.
They'd been really appreciative till then as well and seemed upset when they had to give notice ( she gave up work).
I came to the conclusion some people are just odd/ pig ignorant.

HSMMaCM · 29/09/2013 21:42

That happened to me once. I thought we got on really well and suddenly it was over :(

vix206 · 29/09/2013 21:31

That would upset me too :( It does sound a bit odd.

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