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New nanny. Would this comment worry you.

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mummysboys1980 · 11/09/2013 19:15

Baby is 10 mths and not yet embracing the nanny (2 days in). Separation anxiety is putting it mildly.

During a meal- nanny and I present. Baby crying for no reason after taking some lunch happily. I eventually got baby out of seat as she was distraught, evidently still hungry though.

Comment along the lines of . " we shouldn't give him any more food now until snack time or he will learnt I manipulate to get cuddles during meals"

I said no and got said child back in seat to eat more food eventually but this comment is worrying. If we'd done as she said baby would have been ravenous. He's 10mths FFS.

We had agreed that nanny would be pretty much hands off (for baby not other kids) for the first week anyway so I wasn't interfering taking him from the seat during the meal.

Any thoughts nannies and parents with childcarers?

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mummysboys1980 · 11/09/2013 19:49

thanks for the comments. I need this kind of perspective.

I know baby wont bond with me around but he can get to know her face etc so she isnt a stranger... I am around for bit longer yet unfortunately or fortunately....depending on your view.

Should I just leave now cold turkey or let him get to know her face before going cold turkey and going out all day?

I guess i was worried that she thought it was ok to not let him eat enough. He only has one small milk feed in the afternoon now so needed that meal.

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MissStrawberry · 11/09/2013 19:46

Worried about manipulation at 10 months? Really?

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A nanny might be a "professional" but I can safely say mum knows her baby best.

grabaspoon · 11/09/2013 19:37

I agree.

At 10 months your child will have enough milk feeds and snacks during the day that it won't matter if they don't eat all their lunch or play up at the table.

I also would have finished up the meal - obviously the baby wasn't up for food and offered a play/sleep etc then later on bring forward a milk feed or snack to tide us on for the next meal time.

I also agree that bad habits like getting children out of the high chair to have on your lap, getting them down during the middle of a meal etc can become ingrain at 10/11 months and it will then take the nanny a couple of sessions to reintroduce (correct) behaviour at the table.

nannynick · 11/09/2013 19:34

I feel nanny should be taking queues from mum (you).

Personally I would have tried sitting child on my lap and letting them help themselves to things in their bowl or mine. At that age I find children can like to try various things.

FlorenceMattell · 11/09/2013 19:33

Sorry OP I agree with the nanny. At ten months your baby will soon cotton on to getting in and out of seat. Missing one meal he/she would not starve. But saying that if an occasional occurrence fine. And as you say baby was very distressed I would also have given a cuddle.

But to be honest your baby will not bond with the nanny with you around. You have employed your nanny and therefore must trust her, she is a professional let her get on with her job.

I look after a little boy who eats hardly any food for his parents, but has never not eaten for me. He is five and I have cared for him since he was ten weeks old. I am very kind but firm. He knows that and doesn't play up for me or his dad. But his mum is very inconsistent and soft. I feel sorry for her as she cooks for him and he doesn't eat a thing.