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Not sure what to think about this....

156 replies

HeadFairy · 23/08/2013 10:48

I started work early this morning so left before our nanny came. Dh left once she'd arrived. He got half way down the road when he remembered he'd left a vital document at home so went back to get it. As he arrived he saw our nanny taking her dd (whom she brings to work with her) and wearing her coat and carrying her bag back to her car. Dh said she looked "sheepish" and said she was looking for her phone as she couldnt' find it. She apparently went back in to the house, left her dd and her bag and then went back out to her car to look for her phone. Dh says the front door was double locked and he's convinced she was going to drive back to her house (5 mins away by car) to look for her phone leaving our kids alone at home (they're 5.11 and 3.7).

I can't stop thinking about it. How on earth do I get to the bottom of what she was doing? If she was just popping out to her car to search her car why did she have her coat on, was carrying her dd and had her bag with her, and why was the front door double locked? If I ask her outright if she was going to leave my children alone in the house she will deny it.

Of course, nothing actually happened, does it matter that it appears the intent was there?

I don't want to drip feed so I will mention she's had form for this sort of thing in the past and I gave her a warning it must never happen again. Last time it wasn't malicious in the slightest, just poor judgment.

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TwoTeaTessie · 23/08/2013 11:04

I wouldn't be leaving my DC with her, especially if she has form for this!

Leopoldina · 23/08/2013 11:03

she was wearing her coat and carrying her handbag and taking her own daughter to look in her car. How far was her car from your house? Why was the front door double locked?
One of those things I could probably take a good explanation for. All of them together? and with previous form? she'd be out of my house, reported to the police and Ofsted immediately.
(which is why it's just as well it wasn't me)

CaptainSweatPants · 23/08/2013 11:02

What was the first incident? Has she left them before?

WeAreEternal · 23/08/2013 11:01

Yes of course, what does your 5 yo say happened?

lborolass · 23/08/2013 10:59

Have you mentioned it to the nearly 6 year old? The nanny must have said something about where she was going. If she was going back to her house wouldn't she pop your children in the car as well?

WeAreEternal · 23/08/2013 10:56

Where are your DCs now? Did your sh stay at home?

I would be terminating her employment immediately, unless she had a damn good explanation, which it doesn't sound like she could have.
There is no way I would leave my children with someone who clearly has so little regard for their safety.

In fact I would probably report her to the police.