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Nannies holding play dates at your house?

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SkinnyDecaffGiraffe · 23/07/2013 07:52

Nanny due to start with me v soon. It's our first time with a Nanny so unsure on what we agree to etc re day to day stuff.

In her interview she mentioned she'd want to hold play dates at our house. I am not keen on this unless its with people and children i know. Then I will be super strict about which rooms the children can go in.

Can I say this or should I let her do what she wants ? The idea of unknown kids in my house makes me shudder for some reason.

I know this makes me sound weird and controlling. I probably am both of those things Grin

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Chocotrekkie · 23/07/2013 08:01

It's your choice - you are paying her to look after children however you want.
Why does it create chaos ??
A few basic rules here - no food/drinks out of the kitchen and if the kids make a mess with toys they must tidy them before they go home or they are not allowed back.

Ipsissima · 23/07/2013 08:00

I think it would be unreasonable to ban play-dates altogether. The suggestion demonstrates a positive attitude from your nanny - children do benefit from socialising! However, I would restrict the play-date options to friends of the children ...not a get together with other nannies for their own benefit.
Restricting the use of rooms is very sensible, so make it clear that play-date visitors may not use x.y & z areas but need to remain in the kitchen, playroom and garden.

CaptainSweatPants · 23/07/2013 08:00

You need to learn to cope with the mess

It's all part of parenting Grin

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SkinnyDecaffGiraffe · 23/07/2013 07:53

As it stands we rarely have kids over here but go out a lot. I just don't like the chaos it creates. The invariable food everywhere etc

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