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After school activities

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Applemartini · 17/06/2013 12:09

I have an after school nanny who looks after my dds after school. It is complicated as she has her own children (2). I want my daughters to do after school activities from September - do dance after school instead of at the weekend, and a drama club. Am I unreasonable to ask the nanny to do this? It will be inconvenient for her children I realise. However, the kids really want to do these activities. So I guess this is an Aibu? It is in the contract for the role to take the kids to activities but I have held back thus far...

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EasterHoliday · 17/06/2013 13:53

my (perhaps selfish) view is that nannies with own child get the same pay and no childcare costs. they are in an extremely fortunate position. That means they need to make some concessions and taking your children to activities / appointments / hairdressers etc is absolutely part of her job & her professional duties have to come first. It's her problem to deal with how she looks after her children at that time - no different to siblings who have to wait outside a ballet class. You are not BU at all and she needs to work around it.

grabaspoon · 17/06/2013 13:51

As a nanny it is my job to take my charges to after school actitivities. So you are within your rights to tell her that your daughters will be doing this activity.

What time is it - will it have a big impact on the children - is it straight from school? Will she have to drop/pick up? Will she need to do tea earlier? Etc -

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Applemartini · 17/06/2013 13:47

It would be impossible to find someone to drop them back. I really need them to do the activities during the week now as the weekends will have something else going on from September. I think one of them she could go and come back, but another she would have to stay. Aargh, very difficult.

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Runoutofideas · 17/06/2013 13:20

Hmmm - I would talk to her and see if it something her children might like to do too. Tricky, as obviously there will be a cost implication for her if they do. Would she have to sit around with her 2 children on the sidelines while the class went on, or could you come to an arrangement where she dropped them off and either went back for them later, or another parent dropped your children back to the nanny. That might work better as then she can get on with cooking tea etc while they are at the class. Maybe do one class in the week and one at the weekend as a compromise?