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cm club - can i get your thought on my ds incident at nursery.

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 12:32

Posted in nurseries as well but would appreciate your view too.

my son who is 3.5 yrs goes to state nursery every morning in the week. He started 4 weeks ago. Bit of background to the nursery, it is wellliked, graded gold star by ofsted. Good nursery to go to.

Nursery does training sessions for parents and the parents can put their children their in their creche for the training. Ds is allergic to eggs so i told them this on the training and said that he musnt eat eggs or anything with eggs in. anyway he was given a chocolate cake and they didnt relise till i asked how he had been, doing etc, eaten and they said they had given him an cake. When i said he shoudltn have eggs there faces changed.

Second thing and this is the bit that i am really annoyed about.

This morning took him all happy into his classroom when i returned i was greeted by an assistant who had a record book and in there was a form saying that xx fell through the grid in the pond, took a huge amount of comforting/tlc after he was found crying. Also said that they had given a lesson in pond safety.

They said and it isnt on the form that he was stuck. I saw his clothes (before i even knew what had happened)we extremely wet like almost machine wet with only a small amount of dry on them.

I kindof feel that they had been given a 2nd chance after the first one and now not sure if i should give them a 3rd and 2 mistakes have been made.

I really dont know what to do and i expressed concern at the welcome evening that a pond with a grid on might not be the safest but i was reassured that it was safe.

He ran to me when he saw me when i picked him up and i got the biggest scared cuddle ever.

Ps - am childminder so i know what they should be doing.

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HappyMumof2 · 18/05/2006 13:53

This is terrible Angry I am really Shock

The egg incident is bad.

The pond incident is inexcusable. You do need to ring Ofsted about this and you are right to demand a meeting.

For him to be completely soaked he must have fallen through the grid somehow so could easily have drowned. Where was the supervision??

Really, really terrible........

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 13:51

wouldnt they just say put it in writinig?

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mumlove · 18/05/2006 13:49

Hi jellyjelly, Have you thought about phoning ofsted for their views on it? (I would have done, and did when something at my DD preschool wasn't right).
As you said it is the 2nd thing to happen to your son, What where all the staff doing at the time!!
This needs sorting out before anymore things happen.

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 13:47

they have it because it is highly educational and yes it is gridded in that is how he got stuck, (I still dont understand why he was so wet though)i do feel that they are trying to make light of it and i feel paranoid about it. I know if i go in for a meeting they will try to down play it like the egg incident and yes filled in forms for that twiglett.

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Booh · 18/05/2006 13:43

hello jelly

I would be extremly upset, so I think you should be rightly so.

DD is alergic to strawberries, so much so that we carry an epi pen for her, so if she was given them she would have been very ill. A nursery should be able to cope with a child who has an allergy.

Also I really do not understand why a nursery has a pond? Mine was filled in when DD was tiny!

Isyhan · 18/05/2006 13:37

Its ridiculous they even have a pond. I wanted a nice pond in the garden but because I was going to childmind I didnt get it. Surely as a nursery the last thing youd put in a garden is a pond.

I think the egg thing just reveals that they are not paying enough attention to the individual aspects of each child and like others have said what if it had been a allergic type reaction. Child died in a nursery near me due to same thing two years ago. Nursery now closed down.

Twiglett · 18/05/2006 13:30

what the hell is a nursery doing with a pond Shock .. especially one that isn't gridded over Shock

The egg thing .. you surely filled out a form? Mistakes like that can kill a child ... and should NOT happen

The pond thing .. despicable IMO

call a meeting with nursery manager / head for explanation

Pennies · 18/05/2006 13:28

Possibly but there was access via a gate and IMO the issue relates more to the vigilance of the staff which was clearly lacking in that case and in this.

Get them to get rid of the pond. It sounds like a death trap!

BTW I'm not a CM or anything just didn't see your post on the nurseries thread!

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 13:24

wasnt that a neighbours pond that was next to the nursery.

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Pennies · 18/05/2006 13:23

Both an issue really - the allergy one kind of speaks for itself. Def talk to them about it in no uncertain terms.

Ponds and nurseries are a BIG no no in my book - I would not send my child to one that had a pond because I'm not 100% sure that the staff can be sufficiently vigilant of the children at all times to guarantee their safety. In the news recently a little girl drowned in one at her nusery. I would be extremely concerned about this and I would take it up with them without question.

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 13:23

quite simply he would have died, they were negligent. Now i am just really annoyed. Going to call the centre and try and get a meeting. I explained my concerns when he started.

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HenniPenni · 18/05/2006 13:07

Jellyjelly, I would have been wary about the egg incident, what would have happened if he was anaphalactic?

As for the pond, I'd have been appalled, were they not watching him?

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jellyjelly · 18/05/2006 12:53

I have forgiven the egg bit but it is very different to caserols i am afraid i can see your point though.

I also gave them biscuits for him that can be shared and i made it clear that i would be happy to buy a packet a week if they needed me too and i said i would provide soemthing for him if other children were having a poarty etc at nursery.

I think the grip is above the water, i havetn seen the pond but my minder friend has said yes you could get stuck but why is he so wet from that.

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childminderjanet · 18/05/2006 12:47

Is the grid below the water level in the pond?

Jackmummy · 18/05/2006 12:44

The egg incident I could forgive.. My friends child, who is 100% vegetarian, has been given chicken cassorole twice. I'm afraid it happens... although never in the nurseries I've worked in. Maybe in the future you could provide the nursery/school with a packet of yummy biscuits so that if they ever have cake your ds also gets a treat. Having the biscuits in the setting on a shelf should also serve to remind them of his allergy.
The pond... I find terrifying. I really am supprised that they have one. However I am over sensitive on ponds as a family member drowned in a pond at 9 months.
Hope you get it sorted.

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