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Baby injured at childminders - advice needed please

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EmilyD2012 · 25/04/2013 14:03

My DS (10mo) returned from the childminders on Tuesday evening suffering from sunburn. Overnight his face swelled up badly, by Wednesday morning his face was horrific - bright red and he couldn't open his left eye because it was so swollen. We took him to A&E and were told he was most likely suffering an allergic reaction to something or severe sunburn.

After giving him antihistemines and pain relief we were discharged and his face slowly started to deflate. Yesterday afternoon his skin started to blister and, by the evening, was weeping constantly. I took him to the doctors who said that he was suffering from serious sunburn to the face. I asked the childminder how long he had been out in the sun for and she said it had been 30 minutes at most. The doctor disputed this and said that it was very unlikely to have such a dramatic reaction to just 30 minutes in the sun. It is only April, after all.

The childminder is a friend of mine and has always been brilliant with my DS (she has a baby the same age). No part of me thinks that she would have deliberately let him come to any harm. That said, the last 48 hours have been horrendous. Every time I look at my baby my heart breaks. His face is a mass of blisters and open wounds. His left eye looks like it could bruise. I've been given hydrocortisone cream to treat the skin but every time I touch him he screams in pain. Last night I put him to bed and wept.

Today, the childminder came round and saw for herself what a terrible state he is in. I didn't want to make her feel worse than she no doubt already is, but equally felt it was important for her to see that I wasn't exaggerating when I contacted her from the doctors yesterday.

I just don't know what to do. Some of my friends say that such a careless act is unforgivable and I should never leave my DS with her again. Others are more forgiving and say that, after seeing him, she has surely learnt her lesson.

Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. What would you do?

Thank you x

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MrsHiddleston · 25/04/2013 20:10

littlebit are you deliberately being difficult.

Any childminder who wouldn't protect my child by applying sun cream and then state they couldn't prevent my child from receiving too much sun but did have a shady garden - would be going nowhere near my child!

OutragedFromLeeds · 25/04/2013 20:08

'Why would you want to to smother your kid in chemicals?'

Hmm

ermm......hang on.....it's on the tip of my tongue....

sunburn!! To prevent sunburn!

littlebitofthislittlebitofthat · 25/04/2013 20:03

Why would you want to to smother your kid in chemicals? A bit of sun is good for you.....vitamin d

MrsHiddleston · 25/04/2013 20:02

Good grief, poor little thing. Friend or not you cannot continue with this childminder and I would go as far as reporting her to ofsted for allowing it to happen if the doctors confirm sunburn. The fact her own child has some sunburn speaks volumes to me, Tuesday was a sunny day here (south east) and I went slightly red on my shoulders from only 30-45 mins outside.
I hope you're all okay OP.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 25/04/2013 20:00

We also don't know if the other children got the sun burn whilst in her care.

littlebitofthislittlebitofthat · 25/04/2013 19:59

I thought the same. When I was taught it by professional!

This is my job we are talking about! There's lots of things that I'm not supposed to do, that just seem crazy.

littlemefi · 25/04/2013 19:59

I am very fair skinned and burn easily, as a child I had sunburn really badly and can remember my skin being red raw and weeping. Childrens skin is also thinner than an adults, so it is within the realms of possibility that your child was only out for half an hour in the sun.
My dd came back from preschool on Tuesday with pink cheeks, I hadn't put sun cream on her as was cloudy when we left home but very sunny by lunch; my DH got a burnt neck whilst gardening.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 25/04/2013 19:58

Well, we don't know what happened yet so Innocent til proven guilty. It could be an allergic reaction to the sunlight, sun scream , insect bites. There coulda been chemicals on the ground near where he was sat etched. Remember it's possible to become allergic to anything at any time so even if she has used the sunscreen a dozen times it doesn't mean that he wouldn't have reacted this time.

littleducks · 25/04/2013 19:57

The sun was deceptively strong on Tuesday, ds got a bit if a tan on his nose.

Did she apply any sun cream at all? If she did I would be tempted to think he either had an allergic reaction to it or for some reason it did not work effectively on his skin (I know done people bizarrely still burn with done brands).

If she didn't I think we would have to assume it us sunburn, perhaps a severe reaction. Again I have known people get hives from sitting in the sun.

Her dd being burnt to really does not look good. I would certainly be discussing it at length with her and I would decide how to proceed based in her reaction.

coffeewineandchocolate · 25/04/2013 19:57

Did she put suncream on her? I only all as i had a similar reaction to suncream when on a school trip. It only happened on my face and my face was red, swollen and weeping. It turns out i was allergic to the suncream-it was factor 50 and applied regularly as i am very fair skinned so wasn't sun burn

duchesse · 25/04/2013 19:56

April sun is as strong as August sun. I got sunburned in working for a few hours in the garden two days ago, where my shirt rode up a bit. Can well believe a baby would get sunburned in 30 minutes.

minderjinx · 25/04/2013 19:56

My son once got sunburn on a really cloudy, not especially warm, day. I wouldn't be that quick to criticise - I think we can all get caught out from time to time. I felt terrible but it has made me even more cautious.

We also have no idea whether she is a particularly experienced mother or childminder. Perhaps her own baby and this minded child are the only ones she has cared for.

OutragedFromLeeds · 25/04/2013 19:55

Yoni those posts are so weirdly similar Confused Grin

YoniRanger · 25/04/2013 19:52

X posted with Outrage Grin

YoniRanger · 25/04/2013 19:51

How is sun cream a child protection issue unless you are applying it where you shouldn't be?

I have honestly never heard anything so utterly stupid in all my life.

A childcare professional who changes nappies should be able to manage sun cream without becoming a peado.

I am stunned!

OutragedFromLeeds · 25/04/2013 19:50

'Child protection issues'

That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard! What about protecting them from the sun?! Also I assume you change nappies? What about child protection then? Or is there a link between suncream and child abuse that I don't know about?

efeslight · 25/04/2013 19:49

Sounds terrible, hope he recovers quickly,
i was burnt very badly once, after i fell asleep on Brighton beach and had a similar reaction - deep red skin, then I started swelling up in different places...between the eyes so i looked like I'd been punched, then this went down and then other areas also swelled up, had 2 days off work and could hardly talk, so i can quite believe this is sunburn,
i also get coldsores after sun exposure so please avoid any contact at all with any carriers and keep a careful eye on the blisters when they burst

OutragedFromLeeds · 25/04/2013 19:47

I think not providing it is fine, as long as you'll put it on when needed Smile

littlebitofthislittlebitofthat · 25/04/2013 19:47

Child protection issues. There are loads of schools and playgroups and childminders who don't.

It was covered in my training recently.

ReetPetit · 25/04/2013 19:44

Yes Outraged. I do apply it - just don't provide it Smile

donttrythisathome · 25/04/2013 19:43

It sounds awful, your poor baby.
I do think though that it doesn't necessarily show a lack of care on the part of your CM. The weather suddenly changed and I guess she just didn't either realise how it was, or thought a bit of brief exposure to April sun wouldn't be harmful. There are news stories about how overuse of suncream and keeping children in the shade are causing Vit D deficiency. Getting the balance right can be a minefield.

ReallyBadBreath · 25/04/2013 19:43

Why wouldn't you apply suncream as a CM? That's insane.

OutragedFromLeeds · 25/04/2013 19:41

Would you apply the children's own suncreen though Reet? Say the parents rang you and said they'd forgotten to apply it that morning or hadn't realised how hot it was? Or it was a very hot day and it needed to be re-applied? Or they'd been in the paddling pool/water play and it had washed off? Or you'd wiped their face after food and it needed to be reapplied? Or any other of the 100 possible reasons suncream needs to be applied during the day.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/04/2013 19:37

I have burned, in March, in the UK, as an adult. I am extremely careful with DD as a result, even though her skin is better than mine.

The problem is that people who don't burn like me don't realise that it can be so severe and quick.

I'm also not keen on sunscreen on babies so poor DD was in the shade with a hat for the first year.

ReetPetit · 25/04/2013 19:36

i also don't apply my own sun cream, for the reasons listed here - you run the risk of allergic reactions! I asked parents to provide their own (labelled with childs name) and to apply before/at drop off.