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Grandparent wanting to take child out of your care

33 replies

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 16/04/2013 13:30

Today my charges grandmother came round,

She asked for the carseat out of my car so she could take my 15month old charge out to tesco with her. I refused, then she had a go at me saying she had permission from mum to.

I still refused and she left in a strop.

My grounds for refusing were - child is in my care

  • mum hasn't told me that nan was taking him out

Not a good day!

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Floralnomad · 16/04/2013 13:44

I would have done the same as you . Text the mum to let her know though as Granny will no doubt see it very differently to you .

Kiriwawa · 16/04/2013 13:42

No, absolutely not!

I would be annoyed if you'd let her take my baby without my explicit permission so I think you did the right thing. Surely if it had been arranged, the mum would have let you know?

Have you met her before?

K8Middleton · 16/04/2013 13:42

Is there a history you know of? I mean has gm picked up child before?

I think you did the right thing.

DontmindifIdo · 16/04/2013 13:37

that sounds about right - although if MIL turned up at DS's nursery, they'd call my mobile to check.

However, done now, explain what happened to the mum when she does pick up, stress that you can't hand the DCs over to others unless she calls you directly to say so. (Will be interesting to find out if the mum knew anything about it, I would imagine if she did, the grandparents would have called her ASAP after they left you and then she'd have been on the phone to you, I'm guessing they were bluffing)

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 16/04/2013 13:37

I am a nanny - meant to add in OP,

Mums a teacher so couldn't have got hold of her

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deleted203 · 16/04/2013 13:35

You did the right thing. When mother turns up to pick child up tell her calmly that you were sorry her mother felt the need to be so rude to you, but that you cannot let a child out of your care simply because someone other than mother turns up and says it is ok.

Mother should have informed you when she dropped child off that Granny would be picking him up at x time, if she'd wanted him to go.

CaptainSweatPants · 16/04/2013 13:33

Why didn't you ring mindee's mum to clarify?

OutragedFromLeeds · 16/04/2013 13:33

Couldn't one of you have got in touch with mum to ask her?!