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were we asking too much?

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MsIngaFewmarbles · 07/03/2013 09:19

Our temporary nanny resigned yesterday. She said she was unhappy that she was doing housework whilst DS was at preschool and that the house was always a bit messy.

Although I will admit to not being the most organised family, our home is not dirty or particularly messy. We have 4 DC, 2 dogs and DH and I. The worst that the kitchen gets is a pan or 2 and plates from the last meal made.

We explained that it was a 5 week placement and that as DS was at preschool for 3 hours every afternoon we would like her to do a bit of laundry and either a bit of a tidy or chucking a vacuum around after she had her lunch hour. She seemed happy with this at interview and until she resigned yesterday seemed happy with the job.

She also asked that we pay her early yesterday morning as she had DDs going out (due to be paid on Friday). We feel utterly let down but also wanted to make sure we weren't askig too much so we don't run into this problem again.

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kicker · 07/03/2013 10:00

I thought a nanny was there to look after the children, and tasks directly associated with their care (not the rest of the households).

If you want a cleaner, hire a cleaner.

bringmeroses · 07/03/2013 09:57

It is not you, it is HER. Like I said, immaturity. Maybe she doesn't like dogs? Maybe she has found a placement with one child, near where her friends are? I'd focus on finding someone else, I don't think you were at all unreasonable. Ask the agency (if you used one), perhaps they'd be able to shed some light but TBH I think it's just one of those things.

Lostonthemoors · 07/03/2013 09:53

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MsIngaFewmarbles · 07/03/2013 09:46

Well she works as a temp nanny so possibly another short post, or at least finish her agreed time with us.

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MsIngaFewmarbles · 07/03/2013 09:45

That's the other thing, we are (I think) really approachable and said at the interview that she should tell us if there were any problems or concerns. We asked at the end of each week if she was happy.

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mrsshackleton · 07/03/2013 09:44

Oh, just seen your second post. What was she expected to do during those 6 weeks? She probably had a secure job lined up to start asap.

mrsshackleton · 07/03/2013 09:43

If you were upfront with her then no, you were not asking too much. Agree she has probably got a job she prefers for whatever reason lined up, or she is incredibly lazy and you're better off without her.

MsIngaFewmarbles · 07/03/2013 09:43

Well I'm at uni and after the 5 weeks I have a 6 week break. After that we need someone permanent. We made it clear that if we were all happy that it was hers.

She works as a temporary nanny all the time. I'm just at a loss as to what was so awful that she couldn't stay for even the 2 and a bit weeks left out of 5. We are utterly up the creek :(

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bringmeroses · 07/03/2013 09:34

She seems a little immature not to have addressed it with you to try to find a workable solution, instead just deciding to resign. I expect you will find someone more on your wavelength next time. Plus did you only want her for five weeks? She may well have found something longer term that starts before her time with you is up and she will be happier knowing she's got a longer term role at the new place. Pure speculation!

Lostonthemoors · 07/03/2013 09:30

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juneybean · 07/03/2013 09:21

What was she hoping to do whilst being paid when LO was at preschool?

I don't think you were asking too much.

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