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cms - how much input should parent have on naps?

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RattyRoland · 05/03/2013 21:48

My ds is 13mo and recently started with cm two days a week. Cm is great, really like her. The only thing that troubles me is she wants ds to nap an hour at 10am and 1hr30mins at 130pm. In my experience ds won't nap at these times, so he has a routine of sleeping 1h30m at noon at home.

Cm seems quite certain she wants naps at her times but says ds cries and takes ages to settle at 130, I think because he's not tired then- he would never nap as much and so soon after the first nap at home. Ive mentioned this to cm but she suggested I do my usual routine of one noon nap at home and she'll do hers with ds.

This means he has two routines and I'm finding him hard to settle to nap, as is cm, hopefully not CIO though :( is it normal that cm does own routine and parent different and would I risk alienating a really good cm by asking her if she'll agree to nap him at noon like I do?

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catkind · 05/03/2013 22:27

CM should be trying to follow your routine unless she's agreed with you reasons not to. The EYFS which she is supposed to be following is all about working with you and treating each child as an individual. She shouldn't be trying to force your child to nap for her own convenience, and if she is she's not that great a CM. You say she's certain SHE wants him to nap at 1.30, that's not on. If she was certain HE wanted to nap at 1.30 it'd be different - children can be different in a non-home environment.

We've talked CM through what our baby does at home, and asked her to follow baby's cues as far as possible. Result seems to be baby napping a little later at CM's and a lot longer - just wish she'd do the same at home! Funnily enough, what she does at CM is more like your home schedule, what she does at home is more like your CM schedule except the naps are only half an hour. But this is CM following what baby wants, not vice versa.

VoldemortsNipple · 05/03/2013 22:08

I don't think you're being unreasonable in your request. As HSM says, unless there is a good reason why she can't let your dc sleep at noon. But even then, she should be keeping to a routine which is best for your dc and not herself.

Sometimes at nursery we get requests from parents with children your age, for them not to sleep at all in the day, which we have to refuse as it is not in the best interest of the child.

Could you ask the childmindee to cut out the morning sleep and just have a sleep early afternoon.

MajaBiene · 05/03/2013 22:02

Children might have to nap slightly differently at the CMs - so 12 might not be doable, but 12.30 or 1pm is - but she should't be trying to make him take two naps when usually he only has one.

HSMMaCM · 05/03/2013 21:58

Why doesn't she want him to nap at noon? Is she collecting children from pre school or something? You need to know why she wants to do something different. If there's not a good reason, then she should do the same as you.

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