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Saw a nanny on our street .....

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NotAnOtter · 15/04/2006 19:59

there was a bit of a 'rumpus' on our road the other day and ( nosey-bint! Smile) i looked out of the window to see a little boy same age as my 3 year old having a paddy. His mum was there and the nanny and this carried on for a few minutes with the boy being a bit of a pita....anyway...eventually the mum went to get in the car and the boy really kicked off at which the nanny (having to virtually drag the boy) said 'come on lets go and watch tv'
I was horrified. No way would i pay a nanny to look after my child by putting him infront of the box.
It was 11.30am .....am I wrong?

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NotAnOtter · 15/04/2006 20:24

Yeah Nanny but surely if you had reared them from babes in arms - they would be angelic teenagers?

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starlover · 15/04/2006 20:23

I think that the mother knows the nanny better than any of us.
and taht her accent or how she talks has no bearing at all on her ability to take care of this child,

so she let him watch tv once?: what's the big deal./

nannyk · 15/04/2006 20:23

Sorry Notananotter (great name BTW) I am booked up til my current charges are 18!!!!! (They are 5 months old at the mo!!!!!!!!!!) The parents have just said they want me til the babes grow up and leave home. Am flattered to bits as after 9 years of nannying for 3 families I feel ready to settle a little more long term. Who knows if it will pan out that way, I hope it will though as I am very happy, my bosses are very happy, and the babes are just smiley and delightful! Ask me again though when they are tweenagers. My first charges from 9yrs ago are 15 and 12. And I would have to be paid a HUGE amount to nanny for them again. Lovely girls but Oh My God the attitudes on them. Scary. Babies are so much easier :)

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NotAnOtter · 15/04/2006 20:22

I am going to sound really awful now but.. the nanny sounded really rough !!!!! ( ducks for cover)

Do you think that coloured my judgement?

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cod · 15/04/2006 20:19

god oyu lot are so bad! OF OURSE IT WAS A RUSE

Pinotmum · 15/04/2006 20:18

It sounds like it was a treat to distract him. Was him mum going off without him and that's why he was upset? I know when I leave for work and my ds is reluctant to let me close the door my Nanny (my mum - lol Grin) promises anything to distract him.

starlover · 15/04/2006 20:17

but... this could have just been a one off... he might just be feeling ill and horrible and so she decided to let him have a little treat!

let's not judge too harshly on what someone saw through their window

looneytune · 15/04/2006 20:16

Agree with nannyk though, this is sending the wrong message to the child. Bad behaviour = rewarded with tv!!

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NotAnOtter · 15/04/2006 20:15

good one nannyk....any vacancies?

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nannyk · 15/04/2006 20:14

I would actually be more concerned about the fact the little boy is being "rewarded" for his paddy with tv. In that kind of situation I have just taken the child indoors, and distracted them by starting a fairly neutral activity such as art and crafts or lego. TV is great in small amounts and not as a babysitter, but it looks like the nanny had no other ideas/options on how to deal with the little boys behaviour. If tv is used to calm him down then really the nanny is not thinking very hard about other ways to distract him when mummy leaves, it just seems like too much of an easy option. Mums can choose whatever they like to calm down their own children, nannies are being paid to show a little more imagination surely? Not that mums don't do this but as a nanny I am paid to do a job, and that does not necessarily mean the easiest way out of a childs tantrum. My Mumbosses expect me to try hard to engage their children tantrum or no tantrum, and not resort to tv to do the job for me. If the mum wants the tv to be used as a calming mechanism fair enough, but I would have hoped the nanny would have tried a little harder to get the little boy distracted.

looneytune · 15/04/2006 20:14

I'm a childminder and don't have the tv on as a rule but I do put it on for a short time whilst I prepare lunch and dinner each day. Otherwise they see this as an opportunity to play up!! All parents are aware and are 100% fine with this! Depends how long it's on for IMO. Also, depends on what family wants. Believe it or not I've had parents request I have it on more but I tell them my rules.

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NotAnOtter · 15/04/2006 20:12

I know my son watches tv at nursey but if i was paying nanny rates i would feel differently!

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starlover · 15/04/2006 20:00

I wouldn't mind if the nanny let ds watch tv for a bit each day... I know how thankful I am for it when I need to get other stuff done, or to distract ds!

if the little boy was having a tantrum and she knew that'd calm him down, then that's ok isn't it?

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