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Funeral charges

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poppiesmom · 30/10/2012 19:10

A sensitive topic ... My best friends mom passed away Sunday... I've literally just had funeral arrangements given to me... so txt my parents straight away to say i'd have to finish work at 14.00 thinking at least if i covered most of the day then it would help parent's out... I only work Wed to Friday...8 - 5pm One of my parents has just replied back saying she has no leave left so hopes i wont charge her after 2pm because she wont get paid.... I do have leave left so i'm thinking off saying ... right get stuffed you insensitive person... cover the day yourself... ( As i say... I'm so hurt to have that reaction... !!) Has anyone else had a similar experience????

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littleducks · 30/10/2012 19:58

I realise you have leave yet but how much notice do you need to give to take leave? I would expect more notice to take paid leave. This is something that should be clear in you contract.

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poppiesmom · 30/10/2012 19:54

i know the situation is tricky.... but i was trying to be reasonable.... Guess i'm just gutted she felt the need to talk money.. within seconds... i do her load's of unpaid favour's... or should i say DID!!!!Sad

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poppiesmom · 30/10/2012 19:51

I do have leave left... i could take the whole day ... with the circumstances... i thought that doing most of the day would be more helpful to them... Maybe i shouldn't think about her situation... it's not my fault she's used all her leave ... i haven't... used all mine...

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littleducks · 30/10/2012 19:47

I think you shouldnt charge (unless there is something else clearly written in your contract). It is late notice (understandably).

I realise it is upsetting for you but you need to try and remain professional, the parent is making a legitimate query.

I had a CM who had to cancel a session so she could have an minor operation, it was reschedled by hospital and so very short notice. She asked to take it as paid holiday 'as otherwise it cost her money' instead as unpaid despite it being too late for her to give notice of a holiday. I went along with it but it seriously affected my judgement of her professionalism and I gave notice shortly afterwards as it was very tricky for me to pay both her and the replacement childcare fo that morning.

NatashaBee · 30/10/2012 19:45

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fraktion · 30/10/2012 19:42

It entirely depends what your contract says about paid leave.

ghislaine · 30/10/2012 19:39

Unless you have something in your contract saying that you reserve the right to charge for a full day even when you are unavailable to work it, then I think you would get that reaction from most, if not all, of your parents. What do your agreements say about leave, the circumstances in which you can take it, what you can charge during your leave, and how much notice is expected?

TBH I think you are being oversensitive and not thinking straight. Why should the parents pay for childcare they are not receiving? You're not 'helping them out', you are running a business. I think if you told me to get stuffed for querying your charges I would look elsewhere.

DizziDoll · 30/10/2012 19:36

Sorry to hear about your best friends mum Sad.
To be fair, i would have to use holiday to cover time off in your situation in my company too. I would only get time of for a close relative.
Perhaps her way of stating it was insensitive but I don't think she is being unreasonable in asking not to be charges or you using your annual leave time for it.
Hope your friend is ok.