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Nanny food bills

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MummytoLO · 20/10/2012 13:14

Hi, another silly question from a FTM with first nanny.

I thought that I'd do the big shopping and the nanny would eat what's there. Obviously I ask her whether she has special wishes.

Now she says she wants to do her own food shopping (she only eats organic and health food, ££) and I should give her £30 every week on top of her weekly pay so she can buy her special food.

Is this normal?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 27/10/2012 15:44

luckily was my last day for the week Grin

but told mb and believe woofa didnt get supper that night Wink

NotAChocolateRaisin · 26/10/2012 22:34

Good god. Thatust have had a messy eventuality!

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/10/2012 22:01

woofa would fight you for it, he devoured 500g in a matter of seconds once

stupidly left block on side and went to answer phone/door etc and whosh it had disapeered [hgrin]

NotAChocolateRaisin · 26/10/2012 21:51

I'm pretty sure I could knock back £200 of cheese!

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/10/2012 21:40

when i did my employers shopping was £150/200 a week depending if nappies/wipes/washing powder

not organic fruit/meat but 2 adults (3 if include me) and 3 kids - woofa was separate - he can eat £200 eachday by his self if left near meat or cheese Grin

NotAChocolateRaisin · 26/10/2012 21:36

My employers spend that too. Or I do on their behalf (I do the orders) this week came to £220. For 2 adults, 6 year old and baby.

So yeah... But it could easily be much less. It's organic that does it! X

MissNJE · 26/10/2012 21:10

I don't spend it - but my employers. We order from Ocado and my employer (Mother) only buys organic fruit and vegetables, meat and fish from the butcher, free range chicken and eggs etc. Add a few bottles of wine, nappies, wipes etc. and it adds up to 200 quid a week.

fraktion · 26/10/2012 11:41

Ours is around 150? for 2 adults and a toddler. Bit we eat a lot of cheese Blush and I buy organic veg at the market and we have fresh vread every day which is easily 10?/week. It used to be double that where we lived before....

I will, however, be raiding Lidl as soon as our car arrives and cutting costs that way.

NotAChocolateRaisin · 25/10/2012 22:23

YOU SPEND WHAT?!?!

MissNJE · 25/10/2012 22:21

Basically three with the dog :D My employers and I are trying to reduce our shopping bill at the moment, we spend around 200 GBP a week for three adults and one toddler. Far too much!

NotAChocolateRaisin · 25/10/2012 22:16

*for Blush

NotAChocolateRaisin · 25/10/2012 22:16

I didn't say it was easy to feed two four £30. But doable!

NotAChocolateRaisin · 25/10/2012 22:15

An ingenious combination of Makro for meat, coupons, only buying sale brands, buying large quantities and freezing and just generally being really tight Grin

Cleaning products obviously don't need to be bought very often. Ditto toiletries and the "reduced aisle" at Morrissons mean we eat like kings for pennies! (the joys of a freezer) helps if you can shop on a weekday morning for this

MissNJE · 25/10/2012 22:01

NotaChocolateRaisin

30GBP a week? How do you do it?

NotAChocolateRaisin · 25/10/2012 21:43

After thinking about it £30 a week is tons! That's how much OH and I spend on a weekly shop and that includes all 7 meals, toiletries, dog food (most expensive bit the sensitive-stomached sod), cleaning products etc.

Tell her to feck off.

LadyHarrietdeSpook · 25/10/2012 16:28

last year's au pair asked for smoked salmon "for her toast" and always had fresh berries on the list in the winter.

The trouble is - you can't really vet for 'consideration'. She'd never done her own grocery shop in her life and hadn't a clue about costs/seasonality etc.

It was pointless trying to engage though; we just didn't buy stuff we didn't think was appropriate.

SwindonMummy · 25/10/2012 14:56

Sounds like my aupair.

She never mentioned any of her allergies (was asked) etc but when started she couldn't eat this and that and if she could she didn't like it or didn't even want to try it.

Our contract said aupair will be offered normal family food.

Once I made a mistake taking her to the supermarket with me and she was like a little child demanding all organic fancy foods.

PinkFairyDust · 24/10/2012 13:56

Btw as a nanny she should be cooking for your little one, maybe can do batch cooking and then you defrost it? May work out cheaper then jars for you

ChippingInLovesAutumn · 22/10/2012 20:37

I think you have made a good decision.

If this nanny doesn't work out - you can add 'food' to the list of things you need to discuss at the interview.

NotAChocolateRaisin · 22/10/2012 20:17

I've always done the food shopping for the family as apart of the job and just bought some things that I want as apart of that (within reason and always to share with the children. I'm not eating venison every night...although...)

nannykatherine · 21/10/2012 17:08

Yes. You have the right idea... She is taking advantage of you .

BellaTata · 21/10/2012 11:06

It sounds like you have plenty of tasty food to offer her and with everything available I'm sure she could make a nice meal. I think it's cheeky asking you to hand over cash so she can do her own shopping, if there was any change I'm sure she would pocket, it seems a bit strange asking for cash instead of asking you to pick her up some specific things when you go shopping. Prehaps buy her some organic chicken, fish or burgers once a week but other than that she should be buying her own food if she doesn't like yours. I understand she's live in and it's meant to feel like her home, but she is there to work, not to be mothered, Celine already mentioned that.

MummytoLO · 21/10/2012 10:56

Thanks very much all, that's really very helpful. Yes she is live-in but still on trial period.

I am a single mum and frankly money is very tight. I do eat very healthy so my fridge and pantry is full of fruit, veg, soy stuff, wholemeal bread etc.

I buy supermarket everyday value pears and bananas and she doesn't touch them, it's organic blueberries and grapes for her. I eat pasta, she wants organic chicken.

My LO is a baby still so I buy jars or cook for her separately. She only gives the baby lunch, I do breakfast and dinner.

I think based on your comments I will offer her to accept the food that is there or look for a much richer employer.

Thanx

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ChippingInLovesAutumn · 20/10/2012 23:16

Blondes - food all week for a live-in :) Though most nannies aren't there much at the weekends.

Also, it depends on the age of the children and the type of food the family normally eat, (if) she's live-in so it's 'home' as well, she needs to be able to eat what she would normally eat, not whatever the family normally eat and sometimes that doesn't become apparent until you have moved in.

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/10/2012 19:09

I assumed was a live out nanny in the thread

If live in then yes food sometimes is paid for tho £30 seems a lot as assume nanny would eat with children breakie and lunch so only 5 meals in eve needed

Or do you pay for food at weekends for live in?