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Nanny out of order? I am furious.

55 replies

magbags · 06/07/2012 14:06

I have just had to nip out of work on an errand and have passed my nanny at a nearby bustop, which is on a very busy road. My beloved DC was with her but holding the hand of a woman who I have never seen before in my life (I am presuming it will turn out to be the nannies mother). I am absolutely furious about this on so many levels...why is she with her mother when she should be at work focusing on my DC?...why is she making the judgement that someone other than her is allowed to touch my DS precious little hand and keep him safe?...please help me to focus and to figure out how to approach the subject when I get in tonight.

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ReetPetit · 06/07/2012 20:53

please,please,please be joking - otherwise i think i seriously need to rethink my chosen career Grin

minderjinx · 06/07/2012 16:53

Magbags I am sure you meant this as a joke, but there may be young nannies out there who work for perfectly sane Mummy Bosses but are now looking at them with some suspicion. When people post inflammatory stuff on childcare boards it can lead to innocent parents being tarred with the same brush.

FunnysInLaJardin · 06/07/2012 16:42

I guess the OP has concluded that the nanny isn't out of order then?

Yeahthatsnotgonnahappen · 06/07/2012 15:08

you had me going there for a minute. But the my DS precious little hand was a step too far.

ReallyTired · 06/07/2012 14:56

I can understand how the OP feels. She wants some say who the nanny takes her little boy to see.

When you consider the level of care that goes into the recruitment of childcare professionals (ie. references and CRB checks) its understandable that a mother wants to know whose company her little boy is going to be with.

How do you feel about your son having play dates or meeting up with other nannies. I think you need to remain calm and ask the nanny what she has been doing.

I am sure that going out socially benefits your son, but prehaps you would like be told who he goes to visit.

rimmerfleadick · 06/07/2012 14:45

You should apologise. What were you thinking.
Aloowing the poor nanny to gat a bus, give her the money for a taxi next time.
I would also make sure she DOES NOT leave the house with a bag full of anti-bacterial wipes in case of any future touching of things like hands handles etc.

CAll yourself a careing employer. tut.

nymeria · 06/07/2012 14:39

At first I thought you meant the nanny had let someone else take him out without her, in which case I could see your point. But if her only 'crime' was to have bumped into someone she knew while out with him, and allowed that person to touch his hand...well, you sound a bit strange. Assuming this is for real.

Vagaceratops · 06/07/2012 14:38

People are so funny.
You need a hobby, or a grip!

maisie215 · 06/07/2012 14:36

Wow, just misread this not understanding that the nanny was there. Was wondering why everyone thought you were overreacting!

But the nanny was there, so you are. If you trust her judgement then you should not be worried. If you don't trust her judgement then why do you leave your child with her.

When my DS was at the childminder I knew she sometimes saw friends and encouraged the kids to foster relationships with another friend who was also a childminder in case there was an emergency. I was more than happy with this.

Blondeshavemorefun · 06/07/2012 14:30

If this is for real - Are you cross as

nanny was using a bus (provide a car for her then during working hours)

Your ds was holding a strangers hand

Or that your nanny wasn't holding his hand on a busy road

If the 3rd one then fair enough but maybe your nanny said you hold a hand and your child chose to hold this other ladies

I'm assuming he wasn't crying therefore probably knows this lady - maybe was a friend of your nannies - I know several older nannies

If this is for real then you have serious trust issues with your nanny

NarkedRaspberry · 06/07/2012 14:25

The trolls have become lazy.

Ebb · 06/07/2012 14:24

Hmm part of me thinks that if you trust your nanny then you should trust her judgement to keep your little one safe and surround him with people she trusts. Presumably she trusts her mother implicitly ( assuming it was her mother ). That said, as a nanny, I would have mentioned to you that I was meeting my mother and checked it was ok and next to a busy road, I would have held his hand as he's my responsibility.

I wouldn't go in all heavy handed tonight. I would ask what she'd been doing and see if she mentions being out with her Mum? If she doesn't I'd be a bit miffed. Either way just say you'd rather it didn't happen again.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 06/07/2012 14:22

You loon Grin

BrainSurgeon · 06/07/2012 14:20

Interesting one, I'm in two minds about whether to take this seriously or not.

Having trust issues with my own nanny, I can relate to a situation where you find your child somewhere/with someone you were't aware of. NOT a good feeling believe you me.

However I can't quite relate to the bit about "...allowed to touch my DS precious little hand" Hmm

Stannwigg · 06/07/2012 14:20

I actually snorted a bit of snot out of my nose.

onedaysandy · 06/07/2012 14:19

oh dear Biscuit

MrClaypole · 06/07/2012 14:19

Ha Ha, nice one OP.

If this is real you sound a bit unhinged IMHO.

TheHouseofMirth · 06/07/2012 14:17

Are you a bit mad?

Lulumama · 06/07/2012 14:16

joke, right?

bigkidsdidit · 06/07/2012 14:14

My DS is at a Cm whose husband works shifts and whose sons are about in the school hols, and he adores all of them and is in their family too. Why on earth is it a problem Confused

designerbaby · 06/07/2012 14:14

Really??!! Really, really???!!!
HmmGrinConfusedBiscuit

RandomNumbers · 06/07/2012 14:11

zoinks OP

I think you need to Calm Down dear

ThatBastardGandhi · 06/07/2012 14:11

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DustYourSkirtingsDeirdre · 06/07/2012 14:11

I think you need to chill.

HolyCameraConfusionBatman · 06/07/2012 14:10

I think you should probably seek some sort of counselling, they will help you to focus and figure out what your issues are.