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Children at Weddings; Avoid or Embrace?

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Jenniferkate · 04/07/2012 15:58

Trying to decide whether or not to invite children to your wedding is a tough one... What does everyone think is the right thing to do?

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NoComet · 04/07/2012 23:54

The best weddings are light hearted fun informal affairs with all ages letting their hair down.

Save your money for a five star child free honeymoon.

BackforGood · 04/07/2012 23:45

Avoid (on a personal level) but so much depends on your circumstances, on the 'tradition' in your 'circle' and the type of wedding you are looking to have. It's not a straighforward yes/no question.

Blondeshavemorefun · 04/07/2012 23:37

well you know me body, dont ask dont get lol

yes,im feeling veeeeeeeeeeery sorry for myself :( foot/ankle looks like fat sausages :( - got sympathy on fb pic

my wedding was childfree, only as most of my friends had children, so numbers would have doubled, also my friends wanted to get pissed relax without worrying about their monsters angels

thebody · 04/07/2012 21:24

Ha ha blonds, u touting for business?? Sorry bout ankle twists v painful.

Blondeshavemorefun · 04/07/2012 20:44

avoid

blondes runs for the hills - well hobbles as have poorly swollen twisted ankle :(

or have and have a crèche/wedding nannies (i do this for several agencies)

thebody · 04/07/2012 20:31

Can u imagine this debate in Greece, Spain or Arab countries? Kids are part of the family arnt they? Of course embrace!

eastmidlandsnightnanny · 04/07/2012 20:27

Just come back from my brother wedding which had 15 children 4 of which were under 3, all well behaved their own 2yr old was probably the noisest.

They had a balloon maker during speeches which kids loved at back of hall and he stayed for few hrs and made things for adults as well (you can only begin to imagine what drunken ladies ask for!!! but thats a whole different story!!)

mcfee · 04/07/2012 17:56

Also...I am going to kiddie-fest wedding this Saturday...we are the only ones in our group to have small children (although there will be others there). The bride is very insistent they go. Lovely that she wants them there but we might have liked a relaxing / posh / coupley day IYKWIM Grin

mcfee · 04/07/2012 17:53

I would say embrace but...there will be a limit on head count at a hotel etc so if for example they can cater for 75 then that means 75 not 75 plus 5 high chairs & 4 babies on laps.
So you have to decide if you want spaces taken up by small children some of whom you might hardly know in place of friends / family.

Hulababy · 04/07/2012 16:59

Embrace.

For me families are family events - the joining of two families and all that. For me, that includes all the family - adults and children alike.

nannynick · 04/07/2012 16:57

Embrace. My sister is getting married at the end of this month and it will be a kidfest. Probably helps that she has two under 6 herself.

chrisrobin · 04/07/2012 16:30

Embrace.

MrsCog · 04/07/2012 16:25

On my experience I would say embrace, but we had a marquee wedding and there was lots of space for children to play outside, and have their own 'play table' at the wedding (colouring books and loads of sweets/chocolate etc). I can see how it's different when you're paying a hotel per person etc. though.

DoingItForMyself · 04/07/2012 16:21

Aw, embrace!

What's a wedding without a small person standing up mid-way through the ceremony saying "what's aunty X doing, why is she wearing a white blanket on her head? why is grandma crying?" at the top of their voice Grin

worldgonecrazy · 04/07/2012 16:09

Embrace.

Quenelle · 04/07/2012 16:07

Embrace Smile

Flisspaps · 04/07/2012 16:05

Embrace!

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