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Just a slight annoyance.

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mumo3g · 27/06/2012 19:32

Mum comes to pick up child from ours. I told her that we had to wake her up from the cot because of going out to one of these inside soft play centres. She comments that her child hasn't had her nap properly on Wednesday's for a while. I said it's down to ratio's. She looked miffed by this. Sometimes we are unable to give this child a nap at all depending on how long this child takes on lunch.

The issue we have is that DH has to do 1-1 care with a autistic child but that leaves me with 3 children, one of whom needs the activity too. I can't just pander to the needs of the one child when others need attention. Couldn't expect him to be quietly playing while the child naps he is very active or the other baby to be quiet too. The child had 30mins nap today which was all we could do before having to go out to collect the autistic child.

Sometimes I wish I could give notice to this family as the mum demands a lot. Wouldn't know how though.

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ShhhhhGoBackToSleep · 27/06/2012 19:49

So you are neglecting one child's basic needs because you are looking after too many children ("ratios") and then saying the mother who is not too pleased about it is too demanding??!!

Gosh, I'm very glad you are not my cm.

drinkyourmilk · 27/06/2012 19:49

Agree with everyone else. I would expect my child to have the opportunity to nap if they needed it. Maybe we could help come up with ideas to keep the others entertained while this child sleeps? Or would you be able to move their nap time to a more.convenient time?

forevergreek · 27/06/2012 19:43

I agree that's not catering for everyone's needs. One to one is just hat, so your dh should deal with that and you stay in whilst others nap o play quietly.

Surely the other children are under school age too and I would expect them all to either nap or spend nap time quietly resting doing something g relaxing like reading/ being read to, drawing, quiet small play

I wouldn't be happy that my children are being allowed to rudely wake another child by screaming/ running about at an inappropriate time. They have the rest of the day to do that and respect for others needs to be taught also

1-3 = nap time/ quiet time regardless of age here

mnistooaddictive · 27/06/2012 19:41

I think I agree with the mother here. This would be a deal breaker if you were my cm. how old is this child? If 2 or over then ok, but under that I think you need to give them a higher priority.

NatashaBee · 27/06/2012 19:40

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JustFabulous · 27/06/2012 19:38

Why can't the child sleep in the house and you entertain the other children in the garden?

lisaro · 27/06/2012 19:35

Surely you didn't all need to go pick up the other child? It sounds like you have too many children for your time/ability. The mother is entitled to expect her child to be looked after properly, which you don't seem able or willing to do. you need to assess your priorities.

Rubirosa · 27/06/2012 19:34

If you are unable to allow a child to sleep when they need to then I don't think you are providing for that child's needs. Sounds like you have taken on more than you can cope with?

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