Some advice please (freinds on facebook)

I have teacher friends at senior school who will only add pupils 6 months after they have left. I would not want my boss on my fb, though the deputy manager is on there, she is such a close friend anyway. I would not post anything inapropriate anyway, confidentiality is a major part of my job. I am a carer in a residential home for the elderly.
Only you can decide what you are comfortable with.

MUM2BLESS never had any issues bringing up problems!

This is interesting!! I was approached by Email via a nanny website about a job,two weeks ago. I sent my CV and she replied giving a link to her Facebook page, and said she would be in touch shortly.However I haven't heard anything since, and am now wondering if she wanted to check me out on Facebook before the interview ...

I am Facebook friends with one of my parents but she was a Facebook friend before she was a customer so it would be a bit wierd to delete her now! I have a page set up for my childminding business and one of my other parents is a 'friend' of that.

I can totally see why people would keep things seperate, lots of innocent comments or pictures could be misconstrued. For example, if I were to post that my own kids were being a pain/being badly behaved how would that reflect on me as a childminder? Some people could see that as me not being very good at my job. I also can't completely control what other friends post, what if they post something tasteless on my wall that offends a customer? I'm never likely to be posting that I'm stoned/drunk/have locked my kids in the cellar but it doesn't have to be that extreme to cause problems.

Another here who doesnt have current parents on their Facebook.

Quote ''I consider we're on friendly terms, I've been for coffee, etc at hers when she hasn't had dd but she needs a personal life without having to think she may or may not watch what she says'' you have it in one there VivaLeBeaver

I too have nothing to be ashamed of.. and I very rarely post anything anyhow.. Just like to have a nose into other peoples lives and see whats going on...

I have Facebook culls. I used to be friends with lots of minders and mindees parents. Every few months I delete everyone except family and then slowly add a few people back on. I have no parents on there at the moment and one CM.

my boss and I have people in common in facebook but I see it as a private place and respect her need to also have a private space too. She is able to find me and befriend me if she likes (it's been 3 years) but she hasn't and I haven't checked on her either.

If either of us wants to tell the other something we live in the same house we don't need to use facebook.

i too would never ever ever have my current boss as a friend in FB

and im am friends with all of my ex bosses (the ones that use facebook anyway)

I am also friends with some of my ex charges.

Lol

nannyof3 you're purposely trying to make out that those who don't have bosses on fb have something to hide, what's wrong with not wanting them on there? (Not that there is anything wrong with wanting them on there either).

My two sets of current bosses obviously couldn't give a toss about not being on my fb as they have never asked me to be friends on it, my bosses in the past have obviously felt the same.

And why the 'private', personal/private life and work life should be separated surely? When do you get a break otherwise? The comment insinuating that people who want a 'private' life are saddos is a bit petty, just because you don't agree there's no need to namecall...

There are boundaries and if you treat fb as somewhere to catch up with old friends (which is the reason I personally use fb) then why would you want your bosses, who you see probably more frequently than your own family, on your facebook? Isn't fb supposed to be about staying in touch with people you don't get to see much? That's all it is to me.

Personal usage I suppose.

I've got several local CMs as FB friends, and we've got a private group set up for CM info, but I try not to put anything on FB that I'd not be happy for anyone to see. I have been friends with my customers prior to childminding for them, so that's never been an issue for me.

I wouldn't expect dd's CM to accept a fb request from me. I consider we're on friendly terms, I've been for coffee, etc at hers when she hasn't had dd but she needs a personal life without having to think she may or may not watch what she says.

I have politely turned down fb requests from patients in the past. I think its lovely that a woman whos baby I've delivered likes me enough to ask me, etc. However I have to stay professional.

I have friends under one name and work clients under my real name so I can chat with my friends without mine and there responses being open to misinterpretation by families/agencies.

Depends what you do in ur 'private ' life... I wouldnt have any info / photos on fb that wud be unsuitable...... Wow, some people LOVE to put there life on fb...... Ha saddos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

excalty thebody - i add after i have finished working for them

i dont have current boss's on there as i feel it isnt professional to mix work and pleasure and there need to be boundaries

plus sure there are things that maybe my employers want to keep private about them - they might even want to blast off about me to their friends lol

i dont believe in limited profiles, you either want someone on fb as you know/like them or you dont

those who know me on here and are on my fb know that i have never slated my boss's as i have always worked for nice ones, so no need to slate

Saying that, they can always see my twitter, which reposts all of my fb statuses anyway. And my blog, which is linked to my twitter.

You could have them on there and have them on limited settings if you want to use it to communicarte with local cms. otherwise don't bother.

I wouldn't have my current bosses on mine (nanny). I don't think they'd want me on theirs either! I would accept an add from them after I left and wanted to stay in touch though.

I would never have current employers as friends on Facebook. Not because I'm hiding anything or slating them but because I like my privacy. My private life is exactly that - private. If an employer asks what I got up to at a weekend, then of course I'd tell them but I don't think an employer needs access to a nannies/childminders life 24/7. Tbh it's bad enough having my Mother on FB let alone an employer. At work I am proffessional, responsible, a paragon of virtue, I don't swear, tell rude jokes or dress inappropriately. I don't really swear or post anything on FB that I wouldn't want employers seeing but I reserve my right to make the choice of who I accept as friends and crossing that employer/friend boundary can make things awkward.

I have to agree with blondeshavemore fun. I would not have had my previous employer as a fb friend, and she felt the same whilst I was employed by her. My private life is private, and if i'd had a bad day at work, and wanted to have a rant on fb i wouldn't have been able to. She is now a friend on facebook, as I left and we still stay in touch... speaking at least once a week!

So not allowed a personal life separate to work life??

I don't Facebook for current parents as could blur boundaries but as closing setting now am adding them like mad.

I expect blonds feels the same and perhaps wants a private life??

U suspicious nannyof3 ha ha

To Blondeshavemorefun - I am sorry to say, I am / would be thinking something very similar to Nannyof3.

If a nanny / CM refused to be a friend of FB, it would make me wonder.