Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

all the feetie stamping and dont care
quite funny
o-k let me type s-l-o-w-l-y to let you catch up Susie.you see it goes a bit like this

you,typed a judgey post got called or it. now naturally you want to vociferously protest dont care what u fink
good for you!
i agree I'd hate to think you were taking this seriously in anyway

It's really none of your business. How judgemental...

is this still going=I dont agree wish it would piss off
bet you're hoping for an alternative,a proper old school moan at the working mums.swop stories of how they abandon the weans

see that's the thing as a cm, don't post a judgey thread about the working mum. that won't just sit unnoticed.and calling it cm club is no decoy either

as Susie can well see, you will get called on it

I would mind their child as long as I was paid, I suppose parents who work full-time need a bit of 'me' time without the children, if they haven't got family to help and they have a good cm to help in that way they can feel secure in the knowledge their child is being well looked after.

Many parents feel alot of guilt when they leave their child, I've known parents to cry and after a month or so give up work because they cannot bear to be separated. I'm sure she loves her children, its probably just a bit of breathing space.

I wouldn't offer discounts, remember you are not a charity, you are running a business paying for food, insurance etc, some parents wil take advantage if you offer them days off for free - be aware!

trust me to be playing catch up!

actually it stopped more than two hours ago. Shhhh, if you don't say anything it might drop off the active list.

oh...

doh!

jesus, is this shite still going on?

is there nothing on the telly?

susie if this thread doesn't put you off ever posting again, I will be amazed

It is probably correct that parents wouldn't leave negative feedback - they just wouldn't leave feedback at all. So all positive feedback is a good sign

What do you need advice on? There's nothing in your OP which is asking for advice.

good post IM
yes Susie is oozing judgement
vociferously denying it (naturally)
IM you have exactly the mindset a childcarer needs

Susie, you are not an evil childminder. Just a bit of a silly bint! You say you don't judge but your posts are dripping with judgement. If all you wanted to know was whether other CMs take in children when their parents are not at work, you could have asked that without sharing any details regarding your mindee's domestic situation.

You are doing childminding as it suits you personally and financially and yourr mindee's families are paying for your services as it suits them personally and financially, but you're just going to have to adjust quicksmart to the reality that their personal lives have absolutely NOTHING to do with you WHATSOEVER and that you need to conduct yourself in a mature, professional, responsible way. Which means not posting gossipy little OPs dressed up as requests for advice.

I am a professional working with children and I NEVER, EVER post ANYTHING that could potentially be read by any one working with me now or who might work with me in the future (parents/other professionals etc) that might give them an insight into my personal biases and judgements in a way that might compromise our working relationship. I suggest you do the same. Your posts are beginning to sound very immature, particularly your post above responding to the poster who mentioned about the dating scan.

Grow up, move on, keep quiet and hide the thread.

One of the best thigns we did was find a local girl to look after the baby twins on Sat and Sunday mornings which I would never have considered with the first 3 children 14 years before. Not many working parents pay for some child care at weekends but it was the best thing for everyone. The twins got 4 hours with some adoring teenage girl seeing to their every need. We coudl get on with work, admin, driving 3 older children around or even snoozing with the papers. It meant the other hours in that day with them were nicer hours as the housework stuff was done and we just just relax and play.

(On my post above I meant did NOT think my children suffered - when we were away for a week although I missed them.)

nope I gave good feedback when I was actively looking elsewhere, how could I not my child was still in her care! it doesn't prove anything. Turnover does.

Monkeymoma, are you for real?

and BTW good feedback doesn't mean much either, as a parent the last thing you want to do is drop your child off with someone there is a bit on animosity with, so I gave good feedback to a CM I was unhappy with because I was stuck with her for a couple more weeks and didn't want a bad atmosphere at the place I was leaving my prescious child. It is incredibly difficult to leave bad feedback with someone you have to leave your child with, even if it's only for a few more days. I was ALREADY becomming uncomfortable with leaving him there I certainly didn't want to make it worse! You still have to wait for a place elsewhere. You can't always just give bad feedback and run when you first decide that it's not for you!

the proof really is in the turnover - THAT is what really tells you what other parents think!. Maybe the OP mum spent her day off looking around other CMs and nurseries?

I send dd to nursery sometime when I have a day off and when I'm off sick. Actually she went 2 days a week for year before I went back to work. But then I am a lp and need a day off now and then. This isn't a good example in the context of this post as I only work 3 days a week. Sorry
In some ways yanbu but in some ways yabu. That mum is working v long hours maybe because she has no choice and maybe was desperate for a break. I've certainly been there. On the other hand if it was me I would have collected dd couple of hours early to spend time with her. You never know though maybe she needed the full day of rest. I can sympathise with that too

.. and also being in touch with ex mindees is a good sign too, not something that happens if parents get shitty vibes from you. And a lot of parents that read your posts on here have got shitty vibes from you.

The proof is in how long they STAY, that would be what I would ask an established CM, not how full they are right now. Anyway in some areas ALL CMs are turning people away because there is a shortness of CMs - THAT means nothing, that just means lots of people need CMs.

Obviously not something you can ask a new CM, but after a while it is how many STAY from baby to school, that matters as a prospective parent. So good luck with that!

'Infact after trying to make sense of half the posts on here I wonder if I will ever cate about anything again'

@ susie

suzie I doubt it'll even be an issue much longer, parents aren't stupid and will pick on on your vibes and move on!