Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

of course she has an opinion of me, but it is when that spills over into being judgemental that I have a problem. 'oh poor DS1, his mother never collects him from school, I have to do it, sigh' whispered at the school gates. My CM would never do this as a good personal friend, but I am afraid judging by this thread some would

A CM does the job for money. It doesn't matter what she thinks of you as a person, she's not going to let you know that, as it would do her out of a job. I don't think a good CM would badmouth you to your children though.

if a cm feels antipathy to working parents shouldn't be a cm
working parents pay cmwages,so despite all the harrumphing, cm need the working parents

Funnys I think you're being very naive if you think your childminder has absolutely no opinion about you because she's 'professional'. You'll also find that most people are pretty good at hiding their opinion.

the point is if she judges me in a negative manner that will filter through to my DC, and that is not on. How can you judge someone as lacking because they have chosen to use you services and pay you a lot of money? Thats nuts. I may judge my clients, but I don't ever question why they have to use me and think they are lacking as a parent for doing so.

no,the rub is keep your inane opinion to yourself
the working parents need the cm as a business transaction. it's not personal or palsie it's needs driven.

And if she wasn't able to hide her opinion of you then she would clearly not be mentally competent to look after children.

The idea that the person who looks after your child every day has no opinion of you is odd - of course your CM judges you. She might judge you to be absolutely fantastic, but if she has no judgement at all then she must be brain dead. Everyone has opinions about the people they work with. The idea that because you pay someone they have to think positively about you is just ridiculous. Do you think your boss is fantastic at all times?

no one pays the hired help to judge me. The way some of you are acting, you deserve to be called hired helps. CM is a profession and because my CM acts in a professional way I treat her as such. If they treated me as some CM on here clearly treat their employers, the deserve to be called hired helps.

indeed cm
depend upon working mums
we pay your bloody wages - don't bite the hand that feeds

This thread has reminded me of how I felt when I read this. In the article the nursery worker appears to be judging the parents for daring to work a full day. DS goes to nursery 8-6 three days, so it made me think, where his carers judging me for being a working mum?

Sorry Susie but your OP is definitely judgey. Yes 60 hours a week with a CM is far from ideal, but so is no time to yourself.

Oh yes Funnys, no one pays the hired help to have opinions, dear lord, what next, they might actually start thinking! Naturally your CM is an automaton who thinks the sun shines out of your arse at all times.

and if I had o much of a sniff that my CM was judging me, my child would be out of there and off to a professional CM as quick as that. You lot are a world apart from my CM, thank god

Lovely isn't it that our paid childcare judges us. I have clients and I don't judge them. Why would I? They pay my wage. Some of you need to get a grip and be thankful that some poor souls have to work 60hrs. The last thing they need is their hired help judging them

I used to child mind one of my best friends children. When she was on maternity leave with her 2nd child, the 1st came to me all the time. She also had assorted days off work to do both important and not so important things. None of my business what she was doing. I was her cm and she did what she felt was best for herself and her children.

Adults are generally quite capable of organising their own lives without being judged by other people.

I like time on my own
no work pressure
no weans
and fortunately I pay for ft nursery so I can have time to myself,weans watched
bliss

Exactly, Boring. There are so many things that could be done on a day off from work without even a completely adorable baby in tow. I hope at least some of them - dental, medical, legal... - are acceptable to some posters on here, and don't mean the mum doesn't care for her baby.

judge all they want
I pay their wages
it's a business transaction,not looking for a pal.

Why should anyone judge? What have other people choices got to do with anyone else?

Whose business is it other than the mothers what they do with their time?

Why, in this day and age, is it so important for women to bitch about other women? Surely we are all doing the best we can with what we've got.

Being judgemental is just yet another way for one person to feel superior to another. What gives you the right?

Unles of course it is your own insecurity of your own choices - which would make sense "I can't be that bad, at least I don't do XXX"

I think it's very wrong.

Don't you think that nursery workers judge you , of course they do. My niece works in one and is always bitching about parents. Not many appointments last all day surely she could spend a few hours with her.? I think a lot of mums feel guilty about working and will keep trying to justify it. Glad this baby has found a love,y childminder.

my kids go nursery when I've got day off or work at home
I go haircut, gym, lunch all things I don't want to do with weans in tow

hi sm, fancy a fight

miaow. not judging?yeah right
youre obviously judging
wel she's not answeable to you, youre the paid cm not the super ego

why shouldnt she judge eve? has she no right to an opinion because it suits working mums to think their childcarers would never dare to judge them?

join the real world, the op is childminding for money first, love of the job second, just like everyone else

if she has a judgement of someone thats her perogative

Absolutely Boring, I could think of hundreds of things that it would be better to do without a baby in tow.