Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

I've also sent him while I used days off to job hunt or to attend interviews, can't take your child to interviews! I don't like to tell anyone when I have an interview because it makes me more nervous if people know so as far as my childcare providers know I'm having "me time"

well the answer is obviously yes because it wouldn't necessarily be quality time if the child was at home because some days off have to be given over to maintanence and paperwork and scans (which you can't take LOs to but don't necessarily want to tell your CM about). If you have support then they can take the child to the playground etc while you do this, if not isn't it better to send them to childcare where they are interracted with and entertained?

There have been times when I've asked DS's nursery to take him for an EXTRA session on a day when I'm off work so that I can get things done that either I couldn't do if he was there, or that would involve him being very bored.

I'm taking a day off to have a dating scan soon, no children allowed, DH at work, no free support, so will be looking to put DS in for an extra day of childcare while I have a DAY OFF! - not telling the nursery why though! why should I? and yes it'll be a whole day because I will distress DS if it is bad news and I pick him up straight after

You are paid to provide a service. What the parent does while you are providing that service has bugger all to do with you. Unless you make it a condition of using your service that mindees can only atend while parents work.

okay, so the answer to your post of 12 noon today is yes, perfectly normal for the child to come to the CM regardless of what arrangements the parents have made for their day

Well monkey if my daughter left her baby all week and then wanted me to have him for a day why she did her things I would say no.

so answer then, would you post the same if someone sent LOs for a day with their granny or aunty to get some rest/sort the house/do the shopping/whatever?

I don't think you are unprofessional for posting if that was the case there a loads of posts on here from nannies and childminders. Better put it on here than slag the parents off so other people can overhear. When I have worked in nurseries this happens all the time all day, one of the reasons I do not work in nurseries anymore.

I have nannied where the mum has sat in her car reading so I don't finish a minute early.

I have also nannied for people that don't work at all. Like you I find this hard to understand but I suppose each to their own we are not all made the same.

I think it is a very sensitive subject and that's why you have got such a reaction even though you have never once said that mothers should not leave their children.

for me when I used a CM it was outsourcing where traditionally grannies our aunties would have stepped in. Some people have NO free support so have to outsource.
Noone but noone but noone would criticise a mother for leaving LO with granny our aunty to have some rest/me time/early scan they don't want to tell you about/do paperwork/sort the house out. But if your only option for that is CM its SAAAAD!
And then sell yourself as a home from home?, an aunty like figure? hmph!

Good post Xenia.

The prinipcle that if you are a mother (or a father) and have spare time eg weekend or day off you must spend it with a child which is under 3 is just wrong. There are lots of things that need to be done in life including just sorting out the house. In most cases if a parent isn't working but their spouse, granny or child minder have the child they tend to be doing things like washing or buying food or tidying up. Secondly even if they are not if they can afford it why should they not have some time off even if just to sleep? Parenthood is not martrydom and most parents although they may want the odd day off in general do want to spend most of the rest of their time with their under 3s even if both parents work full time.

We left a 1 and 3 year old when we went on a week's holiday - I was 5 months pregnant. I did when we got back feel it was a bit long. I missed them. They were with their nanny who came every day and also their grand mother and aunt stayed too. We didn't do it again although it was a very restful week. It just felt a bit too long to be away from such little children. I certainly feel they suffered. I just missed them. However I wouldn't criticise anyone who did and the 1 year old was nearly 2 and had stopped breastfeeding - she stopped about one year of age so there were no breastfeeding issues.

The child was 2! I'm sure he didn't give a flying doughnut about going to the wedding. He probably had a lovley time at Grannys. The parents didn't leave him home alone and bugger off. Seesh.

your op and tone is judgmental
hence,strong response youve received
now given you also work a 60hour week,like the my you describe. and your children are with the mindees 60 hr week..then I'd expect you to have some empathy

and yes as you can see plenty mums leave kid at cm and pursue an activity in their own

Because you are paid to provide a service, and with that there is an implication that you don't discuss situations like the one you described on a public forum. A shocking breach of trust, I think, and one which would question my faith and trust in you to care for my children.

Where paying for my mortgage comes into it is the judgmental posts in this thread, not necessarily from you, that judge parents for leaving their children to go to work.

I could stay at home with my children all the time. Trouble is, we'd soon lose the house as I would not be able to pay the mortgage or provide food. Far better that I go off to work.

So glad I don't use a CM though. Fancy breaking confidentiality in such a way by posting quite specific details on the Internet. If you want to be treated as professionals then you need to act professionally.

seems a little sad that they didnt want J at their wedding - but maybe was a small do and they just wanted to have a special day for them-at 2 he wont rem the day

and sure he was told he was staying at grannys for 2 weeks -again i dont see the problem-a honeymoon is meant to be a special time for adults not kids

prob was their last big expense and again i dont see the problem in parents having adult holidays for them - the average child has a great time at grannys/friends/with me when i look after children when parents wants 'me' time

just as long as they then have a family holiday as well

well at just 2yrs old he wont even know or understand what a wedding is really, maybe they wanted a child free wedding and to relax for the day?

as for the honeymoon, they left him with his grandma, he may well ahve been told he was going to stay with grandma and at that age may have forgotten?

people leave their children with cms and in nurseries or with friends and relatives for all sorts of reasons, its not for anyone to judge, so what if the mum was using her day off to something fun for herself (and wehave no idea waht she was going to do with her day) the child was left in the care of someone responsible not on its own in a cot in an empty house all day, that i would be judgey about!

i am assuming that all these people who are so judgey of the mum never leave their children ever.

save it as an anecdote to be recycled on future working mums threads
proof they are all heartless
as in what kind of mammy does that, few faces

Scottishmummy......J didn't even know about the wedding.
Odd. Very odd.

I is well ard

sm, come on

you think pissing off for 2 weeks and not even telling your 2 and 1/2 yr old isn't shite?

even you aren't that hard