what do nannies want most from employers??

Respect. I don't want to feel like my employers look down on me, I want them to respect me as a person and not somebody they pay and can treat as they please. I am a live-in nanny, so to have a good relationship with my employers is even more important than somebody who goes home in the evenings (at least this is my opinion). I could go on and on but the most important things have already been said.

Luckily my current employer treat me very well and in return I do things they are not my actual duties (ironing my bosses shirts for example while my little one is asleep then otherwise my boss would have to do it at the weekend. Both of my employers have a very busy job and when they are at home at the weekend I want them to have as much time as possible with their child and with each other, so I try to do as much things as possible to make their life a little bit easier).

The number one thing for me is being able to plan my day and not to be dictated to about where we should go, who we should see, what we should eat etc. Ability to go out to different places both financially (a good kitty) and in terms of being trusted to take the children somewhere the parents haven't been or somewhere that is further away.

Home on time and paid on time also important.

A 'thank-you' at the end of the day/week/month. Appreciation rather than expectation when I've done something extra for them. An understanding when something hasn't been done due to extraneous circumstances.

I think all nannies just want to work for nice families who live up to their responsibilities as an employer and make coming into work enjoyable.

In terms of perks and benefits;

the best thing for me is extra holiday
a period of 'downtime' during the day
as few housekeeping type things as possible

A house that is 'good' for looking after children in in a good location is important to a lot of nannies, but that's not something you can change obviously. I think all you can do is try and come across as a good employer during the interview and hope she likes you and takes the job regardless of the pay.

Amount of paid time off?

Are you thinking perks like gym membership? That costs money and may not be used much.

Ok - if you are talking about tangible things - can you offer...

• Additional leave
• Reasonable kitty so they can go and do things
• A decent coffee machine (at your house)

....

Hmm - actually a bit stumped after that if it has to be things that don't cost you anything.

very interesting thread - can I ask as someone who has her first nanny starting in a few weeks - what is reasonable for me to expect in terms of what she tells me about the chidlrens day. I though a book so that she can write in main activities planned or done with children, what they have had for meals and anything else important - is that reasonable to ask for? Also to start with I would really like to hear in the middle of that day eg by text that all is ok with my 2 year old and her and that 5 year old settled at school ok etc..? I won't see her 2 days a wek as it will be my husband handing over or being handed over to...I am tring to control my control freak tendancies but feel nervous about going back to work properly for the first time after my children so want to get the right balance for me and the nanny..

Interesting thread - keep them coming, it's good to get a spread of views (always amazes me how 'paid on time' gets mentioned - who the hell doesn't pay their employees exactly on schedule!? How on earth are these nannies supposed to manage their finances if you 'forget' to pay them!?)

I want them to back me up and not undermine me, especially in front of the children.
I want them to respect my privacy and be clear with me about their wishes.

I always wanted nice honest bosses...

who treated me as a human (not a slave)
and let me know if they were going to be late etc before they were 20 mins late already

A bit of give and take

to be "allowed" to do normal things with the children.... toddlers / singing group / the odd soft play session and a few special day trips (eg beach / zoo) in the holidays and see my local nanny friends who had similar age charges

to not be over-ruled in front of the children

to be paid on time

to be appreciated / thanked when i did extra things

to be asked what to do rather than 'told'

Thankfully all my bosses were great, but id rather all / any of the above over very high salary / gym membership / or any other perks

I agree treat nannies with respect and get it back. I sometimes get a bunch of flowers , goes a long way with me. A phone all to say you are going to be late. One nice employer used to get me in diet coke, which was thoughtful. Money is not that important as a really nice job.

Timekeeping is a big one and it has to be realistic - if you contract someone til 6.30 but regularly walk in at 6.35 or 6.40 and then chat about the kids, would you be happy if the nanny held you up for half an hour in the mornings? Maybe you should consider paying until 6.45.

Communication is also so important to get right. It might be useful to cone up with a list of duties even down to little things that make a difference to you. They might have a different way of doing things but if you like things done a certain way, telling the nanny instead of resenting them will help!

I agree with what nannynick has said and as a nanny myself I would also like to add -
Respect. For me it's a big decider as to how your future relationship goes with your nanny. You have employed your nanny to look after your children and she will hopefully form a great bond with the children which is different to the one you have with your children. I know it's hard to go out to work and leave your children and see them being raised by another and having a loving relationship with them but in no way is she trying to come between you and your children or push you to the side. I only mention this as it was a big issue in my prevous job where I constantly had problems of my boss talking down to me and going on about trying to take over her family. Of course this is also about a persons own insecurities and isn't aways the case.
Another issue for me was that a parent would ask my advice on how to do something as a professional and having more experience than the parent, ie toddler tantrums, fussy eaters and then after listeing to my advice completely ignore it. Which again is up to the parent to take the information how they want to but don't then go on about why your child isn't doing something properly and you're still having the same problem.
Also don't talk down to your nanny especially infront of the children or friends and don't undermine her. Again it comes down to respect. How would you like to be treated in your work place. Would you like it if someone contradicted everything you did infront of colleagues or after you had sorted something out came in and changed everything you had just done. There is nothing more frustrating for me than to be dealing with a childs behaviour and then for the mum to come in and take over and no back me up.

Nannies don't all want as high a salary as possible. Some of us have had higher paying non-nanny jobs in the past.

Every nanny, like every child, is unique. What appeals to one, may put off another. So avoid making assumptions - get to know your nanny and what they like/dislike.

Nannies in general I would say like a boss who is a good time keeper. They don't like a boss who leaves their office for example an hour late but has not forwarned their nanny. Travel delays happen, especially on trains, but leaving the office late is not a travel delay.

Communicate efficiently with your nanny, don't expect them to mind read. If you want them to do something particular, tell them so, not give cryptic clues.
Nannies like all employees like to paid on time. If pay date is the end of the month, then that is when the pay must be in the nannies account. We now have fast payments interbank, so should be no excuses for not paying on time.
Small things go a long way - please, thank you, that cake was really lovely, I'm home early so do you fancy a cup of tea then do feel free to go home.

What overtime? You have agreed working hours - are those hours realistic? On the rare occasion that overtime may occur, pre-agree what happens... time off in lieu perhaps.