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My nanny is taking the p**s and dont anyone try and tell me otherwise.......

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3rdcornet · 05/02/2012 17:14

Ive have emplyed 5 au pairs and 5 nannies. All of them bar 1 have taken the piss out of me to varying degrees.

The current so to be not one is a nanny/HK to my 2 teenagers. `fully ofsted registered and paid £26k a year live in ( in Manchester ).

I have discovered she is taking some ( not all ) of our laundry to the local ironing service and paying for it out of the kitty. Treating her self to lunch and coffee out of the kitty most days ( usually in Starbucks ) and shopping exclusively for her food for her self contained accomodation on the family credit card ( which is for work use only ) in Marks and Spencesr when she shops for the children in Morrisons and won't eat what they are eating.

On top of that she is she says too busy to do cleaning yet most days is somewhere other than my house in our car. I know this because we have randomdly popped home during the day and she is out in our car not hers and I can see where she has been using the credit card......35 miles in the opposite direction to the one school run she needs to do a day.

She also sneaks things for her own home through amazon on our account too. Ive found the delivery notes in the bin !!!

Dear God I feel a fool. I thought I could trust this one. The others have mainly been worse. The one before faked a family death to get a months compassionate leave and snuck off to America on holiday. She never came back !!

Oh well. You live and learn. I will never employ a nanny again Thank goodness and good luck and my commiserations to all of you who unfortunately still have no choice.

Im here for advice !!!!!!!Coz I got it so right !

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BornToShopForcedToWork · 07/02/2012 13:04

The nanny worked 5 years for her, so maybe she started on a lower salary and just had a payrise of 5% every year?

HolyNoSheDittantBatman · 07/02/2012 13:03

This thread is fantastic!

'Very upsetting for all concerned and not appropiate to say on here'

I'm def leaning towards drug mule now!

'I absolutely do not believe a high earning, apparently savvy couple would be spending 26k plus extras on what is basically wraparound care for teenagers. If anyone were to do so frankly they deserve to be robbed.'

There are plenty of people with more money than sense. After all people do spend their hard earned cash on eyelashes for their car and shoes for dogs. A nanny, in comparison, is a sensible buy! They don't deserve to be robbed though.

anniemac · 07/02/2012 12:35

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thirdfromleft · 07/02/2012 12:33

Recipe: take 2 parts cynicism, 1 part anonymity, and a good pinch of envy. Baste well over wealthy poster and stew until no trace of the poster remains. Offer claims of just desserts with a straight face.

anniemac · 07/02/2012 12:24

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QuintessentialyHollow · 07/02/2012 11:48

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Blondeshavemorefun · 07/02/2012 11:33

just seems weird that op didnt come back and say what happened - just that her friend did

swiftly resolved?? does that mean nanny was fired?

anniemac · 07/02/2012 11:33

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Northernlurker · 07/02/2012 11:01

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Itsallgonetitsup · 07/02/2012 10:26

I think you shoyld sack her and employ me as her replacement.

I would do what she is supposed to do for alot less money - I imagine lots of others would too.

I doubt she would be difficult to replace at all.

redglow · 07/02/2012 10:22

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AngryFeet · 07/02/2012 10:13

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SlightlyJaded · 07/02/2012 10:10

marking for hoover-gate

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/02/2012 10:02

hugs have to be earnt big time on mn Grin

breatheslowly · 07/02/2012 09:55

So the whole story up to the resolution was fair game to post on here, but it's not appropriate to post the outcome? That's just lazy and unimaginative. No hugs from me, that would just make me feel dirty.

Fraktal · 07/02/2012 09:51

A group hug? This isn't the home of the huns Hmm

annh · 07/02/2012 09:13

Well that was a predictable turn of events.

elderflowerpresse · 07/02/2012 09:04

I know the OP in rl and there wont be an update.

Yes nanny was spoken too and matters have been swiftly resolved.

Very upsetting for all concerned and not appropiate to say on here.

Im sure 3rdcornet will be back in due course . In the meantime a mumsnet group hug is required.

And by the way Northernlurker..........nobody desrves to be robbed.

longjane · 07/02/2012 08:58

the bit that got me was the hover bags surely a house keeper could order hover bags

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JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 07/02/2012 07:54

yes, what happened? Did you have a talk with her about hoover bags and M&S meals.

longjane · 07/02/2012 07:52

so what happened .......

Teresaclark · 06/02/2012 20:17

Oh dear, really not a very trusting person. I would consider a childminder rather than nanny and ask your teenage kids to help you around the home.

HolyNoSheDittantBatman · 06/02/2012 13:23

Margo If the nanny is using the hoover bags in another job/in her role as a drugs mule, then it is stealing as they're not for the op. The OP hasn't asked her nanny about the bags yet, so we don't know that the bags weren't intended for her/she bought the wrong ones by accident. What I don't understand is why your response to 'my housekeeper bought hoover bags without telling me' is 'she's a thief'. If it had been an Ipod it would be very easy to see that as housekeeper she has no need to be buying Ipods on the OP's account, but surely hoover bags could have a very reasonable explanation?!