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hmmmm parents home late again and my son 10th birthday hmmm

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happychappy · 02/02/2012 18:54

not happy

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Flisspaps · 02/02/2012 19:22

In that case, I'd head home with their DS in your car. Yes, it's cold but you can wrap him up warmly (how old is he?)

BIWI · 02/02/2012 19:22

Take him home. It's only 20 minutes - he won't die!

If you don't, you're being a bit martyrish about it. When they come home, will you just fume silently and seethe resentment? Or will you actually say something to them?

If you take him home with you, and make them come and pick him up, then you are asserting yourself - but not in a way that they can fault.

You need to make it abundantly clear that this is unacceptable and that they can't do this to you.

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happychappy · 02/02/2012 19:20

just got another phone call they are half an hour away. Had my pissed off voice on so they know I'm not happy

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happychappy · 02/02/2012 19:15

we had a discussion about birthday presents this morning

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happychappy · 02/02/2012 19:14

cant its far tooo cold to drag him out on a 20 minute journey to my house. Dont get me started on this.
they can home once on a monday and asked for hime to stay with him for 4 nights and didnt want to pay me for it. They go away alot and feel that I get the time off other times.
ITS MY SON FUCKING BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
They know as well

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missismac · 02/02/2012 19:12

Bung him in the car or whatever, leave a note saying where you & he are (at your home) and go. They are outrageously taking the p here & you need to make it clear that you won't tolerate it.

Their kid is safe and in your care, but your child is not missing out on his Mum being at his special birthday celebration.

BIWI · 02/02/2012 19:10

Goodness I'd be angry.

Obviously you can't leave the child, but would it be possible to take him to your house, and insist that the parents come and pick him up from you?

I realise this will interfere with your plans somewhat, but at least you will be in your own home and with your son.

And then you need to sit down with your employers and have a serious chat about their time-keeping and boundaries.

(and I speak here as someone who used to employ a nanny - I would never have dreamed of doing this!)

Flisspaps · 02/02/2012 19:08

:( Bugger, was going to suggest implementation of late fees if you were a CM (and at least you'd be home)

Ringing 10 minutes after they were due back is not on, even with a nanny, surely?

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happychappy · 02/02/2012 19:07

nanny so no even at my home. The kids granddad has come from Italy and its his last night and my husband has planned really special night. They knew all this and rang 10 minutes after they were supposed to be home and said can I stay. What else am I to do leave him alone in the house?
pissed off

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Flisspaps · 02/02/2012 18:56

Are you a CM or a nanny?