hmmmm parents home late again and my son 10th birthday hmmm

How old is your son? Hope he will not be in bed by the time you get home, dreadful behaviour made worse by late notice, hope you get to enjoy some time with him when you get home.

heswall the difference between a CM and a nanny, besides some EYFS issues, is location location location (and dedication to one or more children in the same family generally). A nanny is employed for certain hours in a week - they aren't generally employed "for flexibility". If the parent is running late, they should be calling the nanny the second they know they aren't going to be home at the contracted hour.

You DON'T leave it until after you're already meant to have been home, and this is especially poor form considering it's the nanny's DS's birthday and the parents know that.

Even if they have the best excuse in the world for being late, they have NO excuse for not contacting the nanny earlier and therefore giving her the opportunity to take her charge back to her house and spend her son's birthday with him.

No typically bosses don't grovel under any circumstances, they may apologise if they are wrong but if you are expecting anyone who pays your wages to grovel to you, you'll be disappointed.
They should have earlier of course, shit happens though.

theres flexibility and theres taking the piss!!!

you dont ring 10mins AFTER you are meant to be home and say you will be late

you ring as soon as you know you will be late, ie if not leaving the office at normal time/trains running late etc and you grovel and apologize

I would hope the employers will have a good explaination for their lateness and no it's not ideal, but equally it's why they employ a nanny over say a childminder, for flexibility.
And pay a premium for the service.

personally as soon as i would have got the first phone call i would have wrapped up charge warmly and driven to my own house and then been there for my own childs birthday dinner

yes obv your employers are wrong to do this but you could have done the above and made life easier for you

Heswall demonstrates perfectly the attitude of 'why should CMs/nannies have their own life'

Which I think is the root cause behind the behaviour that the OP is having to put up with

'But how does the Op know they're not hours away!!
Any one can make a phone call and say 'Im half an hour away'

True, but unless they're really nuts they wouldn't phone and say they're half an hour away of they were hours away.

'And why should a 10yr old have to understand his mums gonna be late on HIS birthday'

He shouldn't have to, but he will have to because the OP needs to do what is in the best interests of her charge and that is leaving him asleep in his bed and not dragging him out in the cold.

I shocked they don't want to pay for over nighters ...

That is so flipping rude of them

I employ a nanny and would never dream of not ringing especially when I know the nanny has plans

I think you need to say something and soon

It is not acceptable for them to to do this

But how does the Op know they're not hours away!!
Any one can make a phone call and say 'Im half an hour away'
And why should a 10yr old have to understand his mums gonna be late on HIS birthday simply because her employers cant get their act together!!
Martyrish..Really?

Goodness, Heswall - read the flipping posts properly!

Heswall, OP's charge is asleep and the parents should have been home by now, so she's certainly done all the tidying up and straightening and is now on her own time, which reasonably she can use to let off steam on MN, no?

I don't think you should wake a sleeping child and drag him out in the cold for the sake of 30mins. If they were hours away it would be different. As a nanny you should always do what is in the best interest of the child no matter how annoying the parents may be. I would have a firm word with them though. Maybe tell them you'll be coming in an hour late tomorrow and see how they feel about that.

Your son is 10 so will understand why you're late and you can make it up to him another time.

Oh thats awful....hope your son is not too disappointed....as for this family...they care not about inconveniencing you at no notice...how would it be if you took your extra time worked tonight, in the morning, no notice, then they will be late for work and maybe appreciate you a little more (clearly dont do this if you well get sacked but how watertight is your contract?)

Who are you going to be 'mean' to your 3 year old charge, or your 10 year old son? I'd have put him in the car, taken him to mine, let the parents collect him from there and they can deal with the flack.

Alternatively I'd tell them next time it happens you'll be phoning social services to come & take him as you have other commitments and have to leave on time. It's what the nurseries round here do, I don't see why you shouldn't do it too.

They are incredibly disrespectful, but as someone else said you do sound a bit martyr-ish about this situation.

I hope you the OP is being paid whilst her employers arse her about, apparently not for the first time.

Are you still being paid whilst you bitch about your employers mumsnet ?

Hope they are back now, but seriously I wouldnt worry about taking your charge home, let the car run to heat up and take blankets.

They're taking the piss!