How would you feel about a cm if?

How dare the woman care for her mother and earn a living at the same time. No I think she should give up minding your pfb children and start claiming benefits instead.

Seriously what planet are some people on? The woman is a childminder. That means she minds children out of her home, you know? the place where she lives, care for her family...? Her mother being one of them in this instance...

If the cm had a disabled child for instance would people still think it ok to say that they wouldn't use her because she had to take her disabled child to school? How is that different from an elderly mother?

Really I think some people ought to get a grip.

oops posted too soon. How far away is the day centre? and is she just dropping off and picking her mum up?

It wouldnt bother me, if I was happy with the childminder then I would trust her to do the best for all the children in her care,
I think op is the Cm, I wonder if you would include the mum on the register though for numbers. Do you think she would be classed in the over eight category numbers wise? (sorry if op isnt a CM and feels like Im not taking her seriously)

If its just twice a week drop offs I don't see what the problem is. It is not different to a CM doing the school run and younger mindees tagging along. Is CM full time carer of her mum i.e. is with her all day every day plus minding children? That could possibly compromise CM. Although presumably she doesn't have full allocation of kids if looking after mum as well.

With respect, some of the comments on this post are really funny. Some posters clearly have no idea what a cm does in a normal day.

LittleWillows - is this a reverse thread? Are you the CM?

If I needed someone to look after my child/children and I couldn't afford a nanny, I'd choose a CM. I would want someone who would take my child/children into their lives and give them a 'second' home. As long as the CM was confident she could care for my child/children and her mother without any of them being in any danger I'd be happy. I would FAR prefer someone like this who would give my child/children a 'normal' day than someone who pandered to them all day & made sure all their Ofsted boxes were ticked... but going to get off that soapbox before I really wind myself up.

Whether you are the parent or the CM - good luck, I hope it works out for you.

Did you know the childminder was doing this for her mum before you took her on? If yes, then I can't see a problem as surely she has told you about this and any risks associated?

If this has started after the childminder has been looking after your child, then you have got to ask one question. Would you do this for your Mum and still try to earn a living by working and knowing that this is within your capabilities?

Dropping off her Mum twice a week to a day centre surely wouldn't compromise the care of your child as it's just like pick-ups/drop-offs to school really.

My Mum and my sisters have just taken the step of putting my Dad into a daycare centre for 2 days as he has Alzheimers and my Mum is also undergoing chemo so needs a break.

Luckily he is picked up by a bus and dropped off again late afternoon.

If it came to it, I would be there to take/drop him off but of course would talk to parents. I'm sure they would be sympathetic.

i dont see the difference from taking mum to care centre or doing a school run for an older child

cm are meant to be about normal family life

I wouldn't agree to it, the CM's full attention would not be on the children

What 2 visits to a day centre? What do u think cms or even normal parents do? do? School runs, park, soft play etc?

Too much tooing and frowning? Strange!

sorry i wouldn't like it. too much tooing and froing in the car.

i think if it was a cm that I was already using and was happy with then I would leave it as her judgement call

if it was someone I was considering using then I would probably look elsewhere if I'm honest

I would be open minded, I would want to visit the cm when the mother was there and also when she isn't.
Taking her mother to a day centre is no different to dropping off a toddler at nursery.
I would ask if she has an emergency plan and a back up childminder/friend that would come if someone was taken ill/emergency, but I would ask that anyway.

If she's just taking her to a day centre twice a week then I can't see you have a problem. Most cms have family comittments, I pick up my dd from classes twice a week and work round this with mindees.
Also most cms have 3 or more mindees to juggle to nursery and school so sometimes the babies have to go with this.

If u have a cm it's part of the home based experience.

If the mum is 'with it' what a lovely opportunity for your child to interact with someone of her generation.

I would think that maybe she is taking on too much. I don't pay cm to run her mum about, I pay her to care for my child.
I would need to know how it would be managed, how much time it would take and also what's the likelyhood of her needing help suddenly why she is caring for my kid.